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First love finding someone else..
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Ok, so I broke up with my first love about a year ago on bitter terms. It even felt like we broke up for a stupid reason.. anyway as time went on we tried to be friends but the atmosphere was far too weird and we used to just argue all of the time. So I cut contact with her.
Everything was fine, I went out with my mates, got absolutely smashed every weekend for about 8 months but stayed away from girls because I really couldn't be bothered with anymore heartache.
I thought I was completely over her and generally felt happy, but now I've just found out shes going out with someone else (was passively told by a friend of a friend) and its knocked me back. All those old feelings have come back like when we had just finished and I don't for the life of me know why
I don't even want to get back with her so why does it hurt?
Everything was fine, I went out with my mates, got absolutely smashed every weekend for about 8 months but stayed away from girls because I really couldn't be bothered with anymore heartache.
I thought I was completely over her and generally felt happy, but now I've just found out shes going out with someone else (was passively told by a friend of a friend) and its knocked me back. All those old feelings have come back like when we had just finished and I don't for the life of me know why
I don't even want to get back with her so why does it hurt?
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The only thing i can suggest is what people have said to me in the past, continue what your doing, go out with friends, have a laugh, keep busy. It will pass with time. I know thats not always the most helpful thing to say, but its all i can say at the moment.
PS welcome to the boards.
Youngbull - Cheers mate, it's nice to finally come across a board with some intelligent/interesting information.
First loves hurt the most. Don't be scared of meeting anyone else though. When I broke up with my first love it hurt like a bitch for about a year. It took me ages to get over him. It takes time. Just keep doing what you are doing, going out having fun and meet new people
You will meet somebody else. Everybody does.
I'm feeling loads better now that I've slept on it though.. could have just been the shock of the news.