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boyfriend or party?
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been seeing this guy for a few weeks now...things are going pretty good and i have strong feelings for him as he does me. i had made plans to go to his and stay this weekend coming just so we could spend time with each other and stuff. after i'd made these plans i was told about a party being held for my friend who i grew up with. it's going to be his 18th and i asked my boyfriend if he'd like to join me at the party and he said no. and i want to go to the party cos its a good friend of mine and its not everyday someone turns 18 and my boyfriend then said that he didnt think id put a party in front of him....im really stuck now...dunno what to do... what would you do?
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If he doesn't want to then so be it. Friends tend to last longer than guys. If he likes you enough he will not mind, and will be understanding.
It's not 'putting a party in front of him'...it's putting a new boyfriend in front of an old friend. Tell him that it's not any old party. If he doesn't understand then you'll just have to go with what you think yourself and see how it works out. Hope all goes well.
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If hes a true and good friend of yours and hes having his 18th i think that your boyfriend needs to know that you have your own friends and do things seperate from him.
If my boyfriend sed he didnt wanna go to a party with me, i'd say well pick me up when its finished then lol You've only been with him a few weeks so you shouldnt let him influence your choices too much. Plus if u dont go just cos he told you not to, he's going to think thats an acceptable thing to happen in your relationship!
Otherwise how about going to the party for an hour then going back to his. Thats a fair compromise!
get rid of him.
No doubt. You've been together a couple weeks and he wants you to make a big change inyour life by transfering for him. And then the nerve to make things go bad. :S
wat?? i agree with lucifer, get rid of him, its your future and being at the right uni is a big choice and if he cant see that, then he's not worth it.