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boyfriend or party?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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been seeing this guy for a few weeks now...things are going pretty good and i have strong feelings for him as he does me. i had made plans to go to his and stay this weekend coming just so we could spend time with each other and stuff. after i'd made these plans i was told about a party being held for my friend who i grew up with. it's going to be his 18th and i asked my boyfriend if he'd like to join me at the party and he said no. and i want to go to the party cos its a good friend of mine and its not everyday someone turns 18 and my boyfriend then said that he didnt think id put a party in front of him....im really stuck now...dunno what to do... what would you do?

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I would go to the party and tell him you would like him to come with you.
    If he doesn't want to then so be it. Friends tend to last longer than guys. If he likes you enough he will not mind, and will be understanding.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well try to make hm understand, it's not because you are going at a party for someone that will be 18 and that is an event that will never happend again, that you love him less... He should understand, it's not like it's a casual party, it's a birthday party and it's an 18 birthday party... I can understand him being a bit frustrated because you made plans with him first, but you were not aware of the party and anything you plan can be done an other weekend, when the birthday party can not... If he is not stupid he should be alright wit it even if he might fell a bit frustrated...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Tweety wrote:
    I would go to the party and tell him you would like him to come with you.
    If he doesn't want to then so be it. Friends tend to last longer than guys. If he likes you enough he will not mind, and will be understanding.
    I agree.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah I'd say it to him again. Explain that this guy is a really good friend of yours and you'd really like to go to his 18th.
    It's not 'putting a party in front of him'...it's putting a new boyfriend in front of an old friend. Tell him that it's not any old party. If he doesn't understand then you'll just have to go with what you think yourself and see how it works out. Hope all goes well.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i can understand his annoyance as you arranged to be with him first, but in fairness you did ask him to go to the party with you. if you want to go to the party then go.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lucifer devil wrote:
    i can understand his annoyance as you arranged to be with him first, but in fairness you did ask him to go to the party with you. if you want to go to the party then go.

    :yes:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think that you should go to the party.

    If hes a true and good friend of yours and hes having his 18th i think that your boyfriend needs to know that you have your own friends and do things seperate from him.

    If my boyfriend sed he didnt wanna go to a party with me, i'd say well pick me up when its finished then lol You've only been with him a few weeks so you shouldnt let him influence your choices too much. Plus if u dont go just cos he told you not to, he's going to think thats an acceptable thing to happen in your relationship!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well he probably said no because he's worried he could be stuck on his own whilst you go and socialise. Tell him that you really want to introduce him to all your friends, something that'll make him feel like you really want him there.

    Otherwise how about going to the party for an hour then going back to his. Thats a fair compromise!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    we were going to go to the party for an hour or two then go back to his house....things have taken a turn for the worst cos i wont transfer uni's for him...i dunno...this is getting to me
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Go to the party. I've learnt that your friends are more important to you then anything or anyone else :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Schnook wrote:
    we were going to go to the party for an hour or two then go back to his house....things have taken a turn for the worst cos i wont transfer uni's for him...i dunno...this is getting to me

    get rid of him.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lucifer devil wrote:
    get rid of him.

    No doubt. You've been together a couple weeks and he wants you to make a big change inyour life by transfering for him. And then the nerve to make things go bad. :S
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Schnook wrote:
    we were going to go to the party for an hour or two then go back to his house....things have taken a turn for the worst cos i wont transfer uni's for him...i dunno...this is getting to me

    wat?? i agree with lucifer, get rid of him, its your future and being at the right uni is a big choice and if he cant see that, then he's not worth it.
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