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So Angry
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My ex Nate has STILL got my belongings. I keep trying to get it back. I asked my 'friend' who practically lives at the pub where Nate works to get it back for me but to no avail. I am left thinking, excuse my blatent sexism here I am very pissy:
Today I team up with my friend Reena and she is one cool girl AND black so is blatently going to intimidate him (tongue in cheek there). So anyway, we go to knock at his skanky flat. No answer. Try again. No answer. Ring Nate. No answer.
Go to KFCs and get a phonecall from guess WHO.
'Why the fuck do you keep knocking on my door?'
-Ah so you are in then?
'No I'm at work. Mike just rang me to to tell me that you keep knocking on our door'
-Why doesnt he answer then??
'Because it's nothing to do with him. He doesn't HAVE to answer'
-I reckon you're in. You're a liar.
'Come see me at work then you stupid bitch'
So me and Reena go to the pub and its EMPTY. He's at the bar chatting with like 4 people I dont know. He sees me and carries on talking.
So I sigh, V LOUDLY.
He comes over totally ignoring Reena and ushers me behind the bar. There he lets rip. Here are a few choice words 'I DONT GIVE A FUCKING FUCK. YOU'RE SO CHILDISH. NEXT TIME YOU COME ROUND FUCKING ASK' I throw a few back 'Nate you're a fucking liar. Thats what you do..LIE. I asked when I could get my stuff back and you said WHENEVER. I come today and your friend is scared of two girls knocking on his door. Why cant he just pass me the things through the door??'
-BECAUSE I DONT WANT PPL GOING INTO MY ROOM.
Anyway he carries on yelling. Making me feel like shit so I walk out with Reena.
Get home, upset blah blah. And I text saying 'Alright, it would be VERY helpful if you bring my things to the pub this Friday and one of my friends will pick it up. TEXT BACK. Rach'
REPLY = ?? Maybe this will teach you a lesson so next time you ask before you barge in.
I HATE HIM
Now this brings me back to my pure and utter anger
'ALL MEN ARE COCKS AND ARE ALL FUCKING MOUTH'
Yes, practically all of my bloke friends have said very heartily 'I'll get your stuff back..hoho don't you worry. We'll go round there..Yes me and Jim Bob will go round there n get your stuff back..Dont worry Rach'.
Me: *points*(we were at the pub) He's over there now. Listening to my Ipod. Go do it then.
Bloke: Errr...I cant right now.
GAHHHHHHH
P.S. Sorry for the swearing in this. I tried to edit the majority out.
P.S.S. Sorry to any men reading this. I am sure you're absolutely LOVELY.
Today I team up with my friend Reena and she is one cool girl AND black so is blatently going to intimidate him (tongue in cheek there). So anyway, we go to knock at his skanky flat. No answer. Try again. No answer. Ring Nate. No answer.
Go to KFCs and get a phonecall from guess WHO.
'Why the fuck do you keep knocking on my door?'
-Ah so you are in then?
'No I'm at work. Mike just rang me to to tell me that you keep knocking on our door'
-Why doesnt he answer then??
'Because it's nothing to do with him. He doesn't HAVE to answer'
-I reckon you're in. You're a liar.
'Come see me at work then you stupid bitch'
So me and Reena go to the pub and its EMPTY. He's at the bar chatting with like 4 people I dont know. He sees me and carries on talking.
So I sigh, V LOUDLY.
He comes over totally ignoring Reena and ushers me behind the bar. There he lets rip. Here are a few choice words 'I DONT GIVE A FUCKING FUCK. YOU'RE SO CHILDISH. NEXT TIME YOU COME ROUND FUCKING ASK' I throw a few back 'Nate you're a fucking liar. Thats what you do..LIE. I asked when I could get my stuff back and you said WHENEVER. I come today and your friend is scared of two girls knocking on his door. Why cant he just pass me the things through the door??'
-BECAUSE I DONT WANT PPL GOING INTO MY ROOM.
Anyway he carries on yelling. Making me feel like shit so I walk out with Reena.
Get home, upset blah blah. And I text saying 'Alright, it would be VERY helpful if you bring my things to the pub this Friday and one of my friends will pick it up. TEXT BACK. Rach'
REPLY = ?? Maybe this will teach you a lesson so next time you ask before you barge in.
I HATE HIM
Now this brings me back to my pure and utter anger
'ALL MEN ARE COCKS AND ARE ALL FUCKING MOUTH'
Yes, practically all of my bloke friends have said very heartily 'I'll get your stuff back..hoho don't you worry. We'll go round there..Yes me and Jim Bob will go round there n get your stuff back..Dont worry Rach'.
Me: *points*(we were at the pub) He's over there now. Listening to my Ipod. Go do it then.
Bloke: Errr...I cant right now.
GAHHHHHHH
P.S. Sorry for the swearing in this. I tried to edit the majority out.
P.S.S. Sorry to any men reading this. I am sure you're absolutely LOVELY.
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TBH I wouldnt' count on getting your stuff back - are there any bits of it that are really important to you or expensive?
And as a lesson for the future if your going to break up with someone try and extract as much of your stuff you can before hand however thats not really very helpful now (also not very helpful if your like the one being dumped either).
I would say that probably your best bet is to not get angry with him - or possibly not let him see that your angry with him. Give it a few days go into the pub and be nice and civil to him and ask if you can arrange a time to get it back - you can scream as much as you want when your on your own but not to his face.
All the screaming and shouting and getting other people to talk to him and stuff is just leaving a nasty taste in everyones mouth.
Massive Hugs though xxxx
Nah it was alright, no worries, maybe I wouldn't have stand to close to you when you were typing it tho...
I just want it sorted asap.
It's only a few things yet he seems to be making it so difficult. It's been over a month.
The things are:
My Ipod
Bra (haha yess..)
Bits of jewellary and a jacket.
So its not much really. He's walking around listening to my Ipod. The cheek of him gaahhh. After our little confrontation today to be honest I'm kinda scared to see him! He wasn't yelling exactly but just seemed really aggressive..swearing etc. I'm going to ask a mate nicely to pop in there tomorrow night to see him. I've asked him to bring it to the pub tomorrow night but he's chosen today to act like an idiot and pretend not to know what I mean hence the '??' in the text.
If that doesn't work then pparently my mother says I have to report it to the police. Baaaah.
Good luck getting all your stuff back.
edit: mystify he soo is! thanks
Sorry, couldnt help but chuckle at that bit!
Has he got anything valuable? ( of yours
If he does burn your stuff get him done on criminal damage or something.
LOVELY CHAP EH.
Next time I date someone I'm going to ask to see their psychiatric history. Seriously.
THE HELL
That's exactly it!! Even his text messages were like 'think about what you're doing' and its all about HIM deciding. Control freak. Why do I always pick up the freaks.
Haha ohh yes
I went to the police contact point and got told to write a letter and to keep a copy of it. Bahhh. What a kerfuffle
i love your myspace
As your not going to go down the threats of violence angle, Id write the letter listing what he's nicked give it to him, then go back to the police.
Say he's stolen these things from you you left them in his house and he's refusing to give them back, theyl probably try and give you the run around tell them youve had an argument with him in the pub that got heated and you only want a bit off help before it gets out of hand.
Ask for the policemans name and try and get a policeman you can contact ask this policeman to give a call to your boyfriend asking him (your ex)when you can go round to get your stuff back, if a policeman calls him he will probably say of course she can get it back then if the policeman arranges a time your ex will probably have to agree to it. Tell the police that you think this is all it will take they will probably do this as they could then record a crime solved. see coppers blog for details of "crimes solved"
I'm going to try the letter idea and keep a copy of it. Maybe even recorded delivery. The policeman told me to give him seven days and if it isn't returned to go back to the police.
It'd feel so strange writing a formal letter and I know he'll be laughing at it. Bah. What a kerfuffle
I really hope you get your stuff back. To think he goes around with YOUR Ipod listening to it- TWAT!!!!
I'd love the the police to come knocking on his door- that'll take the smile off his face! Hehehe.
Good luck!!