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For you, or you think it ruins it for her? Because I was honestly fine about it, just didn't want him to be uncomfortable.
OTOH, despite having this view of my own experience, I do worry if I don't get the other person off.
I doubt I would be too upset if I were ever to "bolt within seconds" - but then I'm usually ready to carry on as soon as my mind comes back to my body - I guess if you take a couple of hours to regenerate it would be a bit of a mood killer, but there's still kissing, cuddling, stroking, licking...
Eh but it happens. Happens more often than you'd probably expect. I dont think much of it. Different factors in it, I know if its too warm my guy can't finish, or you just have too much fun and get really worn out, or you just had sex not to long ago and after a while you realize your buddies aren't ready to cum again, your just too tired, the day was more stressful than you thought making it more difficult to finish, sometimes things just dont come. Its never been a ruined or ackward or i feel bad becasue i'm not good enough to make a man cum experience, it just happens, as long as you both had fun.
If its uncomfortably hot, probably, but thats why they invented air conditioners
Didn't know that one, does it make the orgasm better as well if you don't have trouble coming?
anyway, there are loads of other reasons too, and if you're not worried then not putting pressure on is probably the best option. but dont skirt around it if he brings it up- i cant make my boyfriend cum by giving him head, and for a while it upset me cos i thought i wasn't good enough, but we talked openly about what he liked and stuff, and i've learnt that its ok- cos he still loves it.
sex isn't all about orgasms- the whole experience is making love (i suppose its easy for me to say- i probably cum 3 times for every one of my boyfriend's!) just keep at it, have a good time, try being sober cos its bound to make a difference, and i always fine me and my bf cum faster and better if we can really vocalise- if i can scream instead of a muffled gasp it makes everything more intense!
sauce xx