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Spotty problems
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Are physical problems a hinderance to a meaningful relationship? I suffer from a really spotty complexion on my face, back and chest. This inhibits me from trying to form a relationship with a girl as I feel so unclean. I feel as though anyone would immediately shy away from me in disgust once they'd seen my body. It really restricts my life and I feel so lonely.
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I mean if its really severe acne, there are treatments you can get for it.
If its just suffering from spots, then no problem - more to squeeeeeeeze :P
Bear in mind also that having spots is no indicator of personal hygiene - to say someone spotty is dirty is ignorant beyond belief. No, the issue of spots can be dealth with. Don't bother with nonsense like Clearasil, none of those things work, I should know, I tried them for years. Judging by your post, they are denting your confidence severely. March into your GPs office and insist on a referral to your hospital's dermatology department if the spots are constant.
Most teenagers have spots. It's a fact of life, all the hormones in your body send your skin haywire.
If you take all the "pizza face" comments to heart, then it'll be a hindrance, because you'll be so paranoid about your spots you won't be able to trust your partner.
But I'll guarantee this: any girl you get naked with will be a) too excited and b) too worried about her own body to notice your spots. Even if you have bad acne.
Agreed! Must say though its not only teenagers that get bad spots.
My best advice is: Do not over-wash your face, you're not getting spots because you're dirty. Cleaning your face too much will give you more spots.
I have never ever been put off fancying someone because they have spots, infact a friend of mine loves it when she finds out that her new boyfriends have spotty backs because she likes squeezing them. :yeees:
That is fuckin grim :no:
Keep her away from me! The one's on my back are seriously painful when messed with!
Just wanted to point out that not everyone thinks spots are gross. x
:yuck:
That is fucking wrong.
only after a couple of months or so of doing this i was told that washing face with soap is actually BAD for skin and it is bound to get worse.
so that is my top tip - stay away from soap!!! (although i bet everyone out there already knows!!) i use some t-zone stuff now and it seems to be making my skin better! although it is still pretty awful :impissed:
Best thing to do is wash properly twice a day, and remember to moisturise properly using a water-based moisturiser such as Simple Oil Control. If you're a bloke, it's especially important to do this when you've shaved.
I think it would be annoying to see a big spot and not be allowed to squeeze it though.
My previous ex had a spotty back which he used to get really self conscious about but again, I know it's not because he's dirty, and that some people have spots, some don't. You'll find lots of people are attracted to the enthusiastic and happy, confidant person you are, and overlook what you may seem as physical imperfections.
Seriously???
think and give an honest answer.
No one said anything about the elephant man mate. Having spots is a bit different from being fully deformed, dontya think? And yes, it's true that most average girls dig confidence and a guy who know's what he's doing far more than they dig movie star looks (Although they probably help!).....
I don't think the world is that selfless.
Yes i agree that there are a minority of women out there, as there are men that probably only care about looks, but for most people (And this is fact, proved through surveys and stuff) looks alone aren't near the top of the list of qualitites people look for in a partner. If someone looked like the elephant man, then yeah that's different, but this is just a thread about spots and seriously, find me a teenager who never had 'em.....
No one actually said that. Some people just said that spots don't bother them.
When your a girl you may tell us how we think. Until then i suggest you read the posts and go by whats already been said.
Well I doubt girls are gonna come on here and say "ewww, spots no, never, disgusting. I only go with nice clear skin guys". Even it is what they really think.
You don't know how anyone else thinks, so yeah probably best not to second guess everyone.
Spots/acne wouldn't put me off especially as I suffer from it myself.
Thanks girls for saying spots don't bother you but they certainly bother me, everytime I look in the mirror I see just one big heap of puss. How can a guy get any self-confidence from that?
I wear dark shirts because sometimes the spots have caused bllod & puss to show through on white shirts. I've tried heat treatment and other medicines but they don't seem to work. I know that probably one day it'll clear up but WHEN??
Your 25 yes?
Seriously, go see a doctor because theres loads of stuff they can prescribe, topical or drugs
Other than that, try pure tea tree oil
Back to the subject, if a girl refuses to go near you because of acne then shes not really worth it, is she.
Not saying its that but it could be something similar.