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and theres plenty of time to get on the corporate ladder.
do you have any idea how dull you sound on these boards?
I can tell you've never travelled far.
It's normally a good idea to move home, unless you have something keeping you in that city. My bank balance and credit card wouldn't be so shite if I had.
- A fifth of students are now shunning the traditional university lifestyle, living instead at home.
- 80% of these at home are paying no rent.
- They are FIVE times as likely to have part-time paid employment.
- 67% of those who live at home NEVER join in with campus social activities.
Other findings...
- 21% of students saying they never drank alcohol.
- 33% of British students work during term time (60% of these doing between 11 and 35 hours a week)
- 50% of students live on £50 or less per week.
- 10% manage on less than £20 per week.
I pity you, if you have that kind of outlook on things.
Its a damn shame you have to move out, get into debt, party constantly, drink excessively and throw yourself into partying (even if thats not you at all), just to fit in and make new friends.
Seriously though, you don't HAVE to get so drunk you can't remember it the next day. It is possible to drink without getting paralytic (or so my dad tells me). The only reason you find it boring is because you haven't experienced it properly - drinking to get drunk can be lots of fun if you're with friends at uni.
That's not true.
Yes, it is something you see frequently, and yes it would be easier mentioning who doesn't drink, rather than the ones who do - but still, drinking and going out has got nothing to do with fidning friends and fitting in.
There is such a high and varied amount of people, you're almost bound to find someone you share your interests with.
I had a pretty long patch last term where i didn't go out clubbing, while most of my friends did. It didn't make them abandon me, and it didn't mean that I was seen as unsociable. At the end of the day, I was still the one who was referred to as the one "knowing everyone, and constantly meeting new people".
That said, nights out are great. And there are so many varied types of clubs, and venues - most people are bound to find someplace that suits them.
So true and the best bit of advice here!
It’s perfectly possible to live at home or in a private flat and still make friends at university. There are societies and you will meet people on your course.
I think nowadays you will find because of money problems and more mature students, there will be a lot of students who don’t fit the mould of typical 18 year old living away from home for the first time. On my course there were people living at home with parents, people living alone, people living with boyfriends and people in halls or shared houses.
where is it you live now, stargalaxy? at home? have a job do you?
lipsy is NOT a cheapskate for wanting to go home after uni to save up/look for a job or whatever she's choosing to do. don't be such a moose.
You have to move away and you have to go out an dstuff, at least in your first year.
Uni is great but its not a golden heaven to everyone.
Bfore the boards of Leeds uni's student uniion website were shut down, there was quite a long thread or 2 about how hunhappy some pople were a t uniu, persnal accounts.
The student oficers didn't take notice, only hsouted people down and hleped their friends out.
In my 2nd year of rinstance, I joined the Rock Society, the socitey for rock music. I went on their big night out and met some people. I went on a night out, maybe 2 with the same few people I was talking to and it was cool. Then one night they asked me out but I couldn't go. i didn't ignroe them or owt and just said I couldn't go out thatnight. I never heard from them again, despite me txting them and such. Also I recieved an email from the socitey itself about the society and it said if you don't go to shitloads of gigs and hundreds of cds, and thats an exact quote, then the society isn't for you. A big fuck off basically.
In my first year I signed on to do fencing, they said they'd send an email with details and such. never did.
People talk in seminars and such and then you may never see them again.
You make friends with who you live with. Students wnat nigths out all the time. Everytime I get th ebus near uni, without fail I overhear a mobile convo or something about them going out that night or not that that night but the next night and such. People go out every week and such. Drink is a big motiveator of the student and its popular. If you dont drink loads, that tales out a common topic of convo.
Its just facts I am afraid.
What a sad and daft thing to say.
Thats not true. I'm in my final year and all my best friends exept for 1 now are people that i met in second year and even some this year. In first year most of my friends were from halls. We had some fun times but they were more people to go out and get drunk with rather than people who i would be friends with for life. In the last couple of years i've met other people , mainly from societies and extra-curricular activities, who i have so much more in common with.
Also, saying 'the potentials already have their friends' indicates that you believe once people have friends they won't consider making additional ones. I think you'll find very few people actually have that attitude.
The earlier comments about having to go out and get drunk to make friends are also untrue. There's a difference between not drinking but still having a good time and joining in extra-curricular activities etc., and being a total recluse. True, the majority of students like getting drunk but that doesn't mean if you prefer not to drink you're regarded as a social outcast.
Well at my uni that was exactly how it was, people made there mates in the first year and they didn't wnat real new frineds in later years, they chatted to people yeah but that was it. Even people joing in from abroad, they were in their 3rd year but their 1st year here. They made friends with the lived in people and thats it.
Some unis maybe different to mine I don't know. But al I am saying is what my experience was and what others experience was coz I read about it or they told me.
Also the social activites and socities are a nice idea but at my uni they were expensive and hard to get into as well.