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Being humiliated on purpose?
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Now,Im gonna start clubbing and stuff (as soon as my mate turns 18) and am really worried about the girls.
The thing Im worried about is when I was at school all girls did and said to me was be nasty,humiliate me and generally let me know I was shit.
So,in clubs are there girls who will do this on purpose as well,i.e. pretend they like me and then just start slagging me off,throwing drinks at me or something?
And,would they give signals for me to go over and try to chat (yeah right, :rolleyes: )and then do things like just walk off or laugh in my face or things like that?
I know these are dumb questions but Im really worried about this.
The thing Im worried about is when I was at school all girls did and said to me was be nasty,humiliate me and generally let me know I was shit.
So,in clubs are there girls who will do this on purpose as well,i.e. pretend they like me and then just start slagging me off,throwing drinks at me or something?
And,would they give signals for me to go over and try to chat (yeah right, :rolleyes: )and then do things like just walk off or laugh in my face or things like that?
I know these are dumb questions but Im really worried about this.
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Girls just bitch at girls on nights out.
So it'll be fine! Just go dance! And enjoy
Heh, good advice. I need to see more of that drink throwing though.... :thumb:
Whats the best way for a bloke to dance then?Any tips on this because Im a complete dancing retard...............
personally i think the dancefloor is not the best place if your worried about rejection, as some girls litterally go from guy to guy, or lead guys just to tease
by the bar is the best girls hotspot i rekon
get drunk (obviously not so your gonna chuck up or something..) then you won't care, just like everyone else there who's drunk and dancing like shit
The mashed potato. :thumb:
On the original topic, I have never witnessed a woman (girl, whatever) humiliating a bloke on purpose in a pub/club. I've seen the odd drink chucked but I'd say that's usually deserved, and I've seen a few blokes chuck pints so it's not only women who do that.
If that kind of humiliation has happened a lot to you in the past (and it does sound very cruel and disheartening, so I feel for you) then I strongly recommend changing the females you socialise/associate with; as most normal people don't do that shit.
Some girls won't want to chat with you, but you'll only find that out by dipping your toe in the water. A smile, bit of eye contact or saying "hi" if you're standing at the bar together. They probably seem like colossal steps but it's just normal interaction, to be honest, and the more you do it the less scary it will seem. Have fun with it, go out with the intention of having a good time and chatting to as many randoms as possible. It will increase your chances of meeting a nice lass, and you won't feel so mightily disappointed if nothing comes of it - because it'll still have been good craic.
I'd just like to add that I concur.
Oh,and I didnt socialise with the girls at school its just they were mixed classes and if some girls came into my class.............well I could be told how shit I was and I didnt even know they were in my year!!!
Just want to make sure just in case............
You can do, it depends what you fancy I suppose, as long as you're not a total dog you could probably find some minger to have terrible drunken sex with, but I wouldnt recommend it.
Just go, chat, meet people and dont stress about trying to chat people up. You're there to bloody enjoy yourself after all.
Well presumably your not taking condoms in the hope of a water balloon fight so you are after one thing
Umm...take them by all means but the chances of you needing them are next to nothing. First ever time in a club you aint gonna get laid mate. Good luck to you and I hope you do get laid if thats what you want but I doubt it.
As for the dancing thing - not many people dance well. The key is not to worry about it. You shouldn't be on the dance floor to look good you should be having fun.
I think your planning a bit too much ... you seem to be strategizing this like a war. Just go out and have fun with your mates, talk to some hot girls, have a laugh
:thumb:
Exactly, its really not that important, just go and enjoy yourself, you may or may not meet 'that special someone' but if you manage to meet someone you can stand to spend more than 5 minutes talking to you've done well.
Don't fret about it. Have a laugh. Some girls will be happy to blag a drink off you, some girls won't want you near them, some girls will like the look of you if you let them. Just have a laugh, don't strategise anything. If you're reasonably confident there will be at least one lass who'll like the look of you- although you may not like the look of her.
Don't aim to score, and you'll be fine.
Thanks for the advice though........I may use it one day if I ever go out.