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Getting over the past...
BillieTheBot
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Wasn't quite sure where to post this so I'll just ask it (mods feel free to move it if you want)...how do you get over the past? How do you forget things you really don't want to remember?
I've got years of shit I just want to forget to be honest. Its taken me till now to realise that the past couple of years of my life have been a complete waste of time. Its made me realise how unhappy I've been the past couple of years when its quite obvious to me now that if I had the guts to make one big decision so much earlier than I did, things would have been alot better for me. Alot of stuff happened in those years that I would rather just forget but arrrgghh, its weird because now I'm actually happy again the past is bugging me. I keep thinking about things that happened and getting upset about them.
I'm having nightmares every night about a particular thing that keeps bugging me and arrrggghh MAKE IT STOP!!!
I'm going insane guys, help me out. Someone hit me over the head with a frying pan so I can really have a fresh start.
I've got years of shit I just want to forget to be honest. Its taken me till now to realise that the past couple of years of my life have been a complete waste of time. Its made me realise how unhappy I've been the past couple of years when its quite obvious to me now that if I had the guts to make one big decision so much earlier than I did, things would have been alot better for me. Alot of stuff happened in those years that I would rather just forget but arrrgghh, its weird because now I'm actually happy again the past is bugging me. I keep thinking about things that happened and getting upset about them.
I'm having nightmares every night about a particular thing that keeps bugging me and arrrggghh MAKE IT STOP!!!
I'm going insane guys, help me out. Someone hit me over the head with a frying pan so I can really have a fresh start.
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But you cant, youcant make it go away. All you can do is learn from it and try not to spend too much time dwelling on it. It was one of lifes lessons, try and look at something positive that you can take from it and move forward.
But I'm a product of my experiences. I wouldn't be the person I am today without going through the shitty times, without making the bad decisions, without upsetting people.
You do forget for the most part. If you want to. If you let that part of your life die then it fades away.
Nothing is every a waste of time. If it changes your views, shows you what's important or gives you an idea of what you don't want to do with your life, then it wasn't a waste of time.
You're the only person that can give yourself a fresh start. Just let go of the past. It's not easy but it's the only way.
(that has to be the most serious post I've ever made )
Not dealing with them.
failing that, I'll gladly drink mine away, whilst ofcourse not dealing with them.
God no!
Better to have loved and lost and all that malarky.
Seek for help and take it wherever it is offered. Go to your friends, to the people who care, a specialist... whatever can help, take it, cause you deserve it. The best you can do for yourself is to stop blaming yourself and know that you deserve to be happy.
I was told by someone I know a few weeks ago that I don't. :crying:
when you get to my age theres pages and pages of stuff in your life you can do with out.
but ...these things are a part of you ...who you are who you were ...what you did and what hopefully you won't do again.
the tapestry of your life is wonderful. pain pleasure regret loss sucsess.
we can't go backwards and we can't stand still ...we have no power no choice ...to change the fact that we can only ever go forward.
don't look back in anger ...
They are talking shite.
Sounds a tiny bit like my situation which is why i ask...
:no: No thats not what its about. The reason why this person got hurt was because I was really confused, I didn't think about what I was doing and was a bit I don't know, silly although I've been told by loads and loads of people that I didn't actually do anything wrong and I'm silly for letting this person drum it into me that I had done something wrong. I told this person over and over again though about how I realised I was in the wrong and how I was sorry but you know. I tried to remain friends with this person and we were getting on well again until this person found out that I was happy. Thats when they told me I didn't deserve to be happy and upsetting me was fun.
Anyways, back on to the topic, I just want to forget about everything thats happened in the past couple of years because its just all getting to me. I suppose its all down to time really.
What a wanker. Give him a slap next time you see him.
I'm not saying go into a lot of detail but just general stuff, you know..
I was just asking for advice on how to forget and move on from the past. It could be about anything really.
personally i tend to drink to forget my troubles but i dont think thats the best advice to offer really. Just keep busy and surround yourself with people who care about you. try not to dwell on the past and just try to move on.
I still keep sneezing!! :mad:
The key to getting over you're past is to learn from things, not to over think negative situations that have occurred in your past and to look to the positives, and there are many positives. To dwell on the negatives is to waste valuable time in a life that can be cut short at any moment. It is better to use time to your advantage and get on with things. Don't let stupid peopel get you down by making negative comments, that only goes to show how shallow that person can be saying those kind of stupid things. Have self belief, it really will take you a long way. Self belief leads to confidence which leads to being happy which leads to focusing on the postives of life and enjoying it whilst you can.
The past is the past and that is where it should stay. Whilst we all learn from it, It can make us a better person. You need to not over analyse things, situations, comments. Brush them aside and keep you're head held high. Fuck them, fuck them all. Thats what i say.
You're life is just that, Yours, you have overall control, you guide what happens and how it happens.
Focus on the positives. Life is too short not to.
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