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Meeting the right person
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Hello All,
Your help would be very much appreciated.
I have a situation at the moment where I seem to be finding it difficult to meet somebody. I'm a guy and i'm 18 and havent been with anyone for longer than i can remember.
At the moment, and its probably my own made up excuse, i'm at college on a course with a bunch of guys as I study computers. Im not the type of person to walk up and start chattin to sum1 in the canteen as i'm not shy, but just dont have enough confidence.
Theres this girl at work that I've thought about askin to go out but just never get round to it because its hard for us to speak to each other for longer than like, a minute. Then i'm not confident to ask for her number because she might just full on reject me, huh.
I know it's probably hard but it would help for some advice because I don't know what to do, i'm sick of being out of a relationship. I tried to be with someone at the last place I worked and after months of leading me on she went out with another guy I worked with who everyone considered to be an arse, I also found out from him, i was well shocked and it just kinda stumped me and I gave in tryna meet sum1. :grump:
Please give your advice.
Steve
Your help would be very much appreciated.
I have a situation at the moment where I seem to be finding it difficult to meet somebody. I'm a guy and i'm 18 and havent been with anyone for longer than i can remember.
At the moment, and its probably my own made up excuse, i'm at college on a course with a bunch of guys as I study computers. Im not the type of person to walk up and start chattin to sum1 in the canteen as i'm not shy, but just dont have enough confidence.
Theres this girl at work that I've thought about askin to go out but just never get round to it because its hard for us to speak to each other for longer than like, a minute. Then i'm not confident to ask for her number because she might just full on reject me, huh.
I know it's probably hard but it would help for some advice because I don't know what to do, i'm sick of being out of a relationship. I tried to be with someone at the last place I worked and after months of leading me on she went out with another guy I worked with who everyone considered to be an arse, I also found out from him, i was well shocked and it just kinda stumped me and I gave in tryna meet sum1. :grump:
Please give your advice.
Steve
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its more asked out for a drink
If you go up and ask somebody out expecting to get rejected, chances are you will do. people can smell confidence a mile off and its definately a good thing to have. i dont mean the type of 'walk up to anyone, say anything, do anything' type of confidence, but just having a bit of faith in yourself can do wonders for the way you come accross to other people.
I've told you before what i think Steve -the same as Mr.G, ask her out for a drink sometime. Worst she can do is say no, but then you could always play that off and make out you meant a drink with a big group of people - things wouldnt be awkward and you might end up going for a drink with her. score! :thumb:
Also, it might help to notice that she's not the only girl in the world, too. Go out to places with some friends where you might not normally go. Going out to a pub/club is a great way of meeting people who are generally very sociable. So that should help lots. There will probably be people there who are willing to talk to you if you don't quite have the confidence to talk to them