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Who's yer daddy?
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I was wondering whats everyones thoughts on the possibility of children being able to find out who their father is if they were a sperm donar.
Has anyone on thesite donated sperm or eggs?
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I don't really know what to think of this, I suppose its conflicting rights - right to know who your parent is, and the right to privacy. Do you think if people were allowed to find out who their parent is, it would put people off from donating all together?
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Has anyone on thesite donated sperm or eggs?
(Ponders the thought of little copies of Dom running around) <IMG SRC="eek.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
I don't really know what to think of this, I suppose its conflicting rights - right to know who your parent is, and the right to privacy. Do you think if people were allowed to find out who their parent is, it would put people off from donating all together?
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People donate in order to help others who cant have kids. They will stop donating if it means they are going to become a full on father.
Maybe the sperm banks could have some kind of system whereby the kid can leave a message saying they want to meet the donor..If he wants to meet the kid then they can arrange to meet up, if he doesnt then he can let the kid know.
If anything I'd use a false name and address
Presumably this is changing?
If so, it will definitely reduce the number of people willing to become donors.
rainbowbrite, medical records are not basic info - someone's medical record is more important than their name.
*Will try and find that thing about the proposals for that 1990 Act*
Then think about the people who will lose out on having a child because noone is willing to donate sperm.
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There are enough orphans in the world. Adoption is the answer to a lot of problems.
You would'nt be happy to discover you came into being because dad decided to have a wank at the sperm bank.
I'd be even less happier, going to the sperm bank, having a wank and then being approached 18 years later by someone claiming I am their father.
No, it will mean that they miss out on having a baby "of their own". They can still adopt.
If anything, IVF has a lot to answer for...
You've been missing the point entirely. What makes you think your "father" would want to meet you? He donated the sperm becaus e he wanted someone to be able to conceive, not because he wanted to be a dad. I know it must be hard for you, but if I was the donor, and I was approached 18 years later I'd be pretty pissed off it was someone claiming to be the product of my overactive right hand,wouldnt you?
By the way if I donated eggs then I wouldn't want some kid coming to me 18 years later and telling me I was their mum, I guess I'd never thought about it like that.
Exactly. The donor's have rights to stop them having to go through the trauma of finding out they might have kids.
The only reason they donate is to give a couple the chance to have a child. I don't even advocate telling the child the true nature of their conception. Surely the best approach is letting them live in ignorant bliss in a case like this? What they don't know can't hurt them.
But, at the end of the day people will stop donating sperm if there is even a chance that they will recieve a "hi dad" phone call in umpteen years time.