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partners vs friends
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how far do you agree with this statement?
"a friend will tell you whats what if you start putting your other half first but a true friend will sit back and welcome you with open arms when it finishes."
to be honest me and my mate were talking about this the other day and i think its completely true. i know when my mate has a boyfrend that im not going to be seeing her that often because in some ways a boyfriend can offer more than i can, like can make you feel more special and im fine with that even if i didnt see her for months id still be right there when she needed me.
do you think thats wrong and that partners should never come before friends or can you see where im coming from?
"a friend will tell you whats what if you start putting your other half first but a true friend will sit back and welcome you with open arms when it finishes."
to be honest me and my mate were talking about this the other day and i think its completely true. i know when my mate has a boyfrend that im not going to be seeing her that often because in some ways a boyfriend can offer more than i can, like can make you feel more special and im fine with that even if i didnt see her for months id still be right there when she needed me.
do you think thats wrong and that partners should never come before friends or can you see where im coming from?
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But on the other hand, i wouldnt stop being someones friend because they did this.
Most people continue their friendships whilst more spending time with the boy/girlfriends. I don't really understand what the problem is. Obviously you're going to be spending more time with and giving more attention to someone you're going with, a lot of people who have serious problems with this are most likely insecure and jealous.
Saying that, I would not have the time to waste on an ex mate who had dumped me for her boyfriend the entire time. That doesn't stand in my books. I would always welcome a friend with open arms who had just split with their bf or gf, as long as they had remained friends with me throughout the courtship and not neglected me for weeks on end.
Agreed. If you wanted to be greeted with the open arms, you can't forget about your friends in the first place. You shouldn't put friends before partners nor the other way around. There needs to be a healthy medium or your going to be losing one of them.
Our evolutionary purpose is to procreate. This being so, it's normal for someone to place their partner before their same-sex friends, especially when it's looking to be a long term relationship. Treating someone who's potentially a life-long partner on equal par with your pals is absurd. People will always put love before friendship when it occurs, and rightly so.
And it's still easy enough to maintain your social circle anyway.
But its a different matter when your friends literally dont bother with you while they have a partner, as in no contact and always refuse to come out, ever.
I dont expect them to be free any where near as much as when they were single, i just dont appreciate being completely forgotton as a friend, until the day comes where said person splits from partner and all of a sudden i am the best thing since sliced bread again