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Sex with a new partner
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I've got a new boyfriend who I've been seeing for about 2 months (I've known him for about 4 years) and I was wondering how long into a relationship a couple should wait before having sex. He has a very high sex drive and we engage in oral/manual sex quite often but I was wondering how I could initiate sex with him as I want to up things another step. I found a box of condoms in his cupboard with the cellophane wrapper still intact that's been there for about a month so I have an idea that he's prepared and ready (and that he's not getting anything off anyone else lol). I don't want to rush into anything in worry that sex would push things along too quickly but at the same time I believe we are both ready and we both trust each other a lot. I am not very confident in the bedroom so any tips would be helpful!
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its all sex.
People go by different rules for themselves then they do for society. I thought the way my best friend lost it was weird and too soon, and one of my friends said for me it was too fast too, but she lost hers to her bf at the time after nearly 2months, but her excuse was "ive done things with other guys before that, you've only had the one guy"
what a load of shit. Theres no time rules, and who cares if people pass judgement, who are they to judge cruelly?
on a more serious note, there's no set time. me and my ex were going out for about a month before we had sex.
There isn't a set time. I had sex within 4 months of my relationship (my first time too) Some people would wait longer, others not.
Guess it depends on who you are and how the relationship is going. (If there is one)
Hee! You crack me up.
Loads of people have already voiced my opinion - it's your own decision and since you seem to have made it then all's hunkydory. As for actually initiating sex, it's really not much of a task... it depends if you want to discuss it with him beforehand. If not, then next time you're intimate just go for it!
You're getting feisty in your old age.
lol, sorry i can be a bit umm..what's the word at times!
i'm not feisty.
So long as you feel comfy with him then 2 months is a decent enough amount of time to wait before doing it, im sure he wont think its too soon and even if he does whats the chances of that bothering him
I think I speak for everyone when I say, WTF?!
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Yeah I know, but he's like...as gangsta as the Fonz. No wonder they make him wait with that patter. :razz:
:yes: Have to agree there. Also take a look at TheSite's article on sex with a new partner It sounds like you're pretty comfortable with your new partner, but you may find a few handy tips here to help boost your confidence
I dont care what anyone else thinks all my freinds know im open about my sexual stuff. It looks like he is ready, you could either talk to him, or when ur fooling around ask him if he has any condoms and hell get the hint!
How old are you btw? and are you a virgin?
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I have done it the other way round and waited over a month before sleeping with someone, turned out they really were awful in bed and it really broke the relationship..as crude and shallow as that sounds.
It's totally an individual choice, but if you're both ready, I don't see a problem. Making such a big deal of sex just builds it up too much and makes it seem planned.
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I'm 18 and he's 19 and we were in the same year at secondary school. I'm not a virgin and nor is he before we got together and I knew he was good in bed from what we did before having sex. Well I slept with him a couple of days ago and it just happened cos we went to Ministry of Sound and got drunk then went back to his so I think that helped! It has been a regular occurance since lol
Alright alright.. I was only asking for a bit of advice. Don't get your Y-fronts in a twist. :razz: