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Separated - hubby now in iraq
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Hi all,
Me and my husband separated in December, then he got called up to go to Iraq. Thing is, he wants us to get back together and sort things out when he gets back but I don't think it is a good idea. I do still love him but we are not good together.
Only thing is I don't want him to get hurt out there and we have agreed to keep in touch. I don't want to lead him on and don't know what to write to him about. Leaving out how much I love him will hurt him but if I put it in he will get false hope.
I didn't write to him at first but I got letters from him begging me to write. What am I supposed to do? I want to keep in touch so his mind is on the job he has to do but how do I answer his requests about working things out. Do I lie and then drop him when he gets back or do I just tell him it's deffinately over and risk him not having his mind on his job out there? He said he can't go on without me? I am so worried about doing the wrong thing. Couldn't bare it if he got hurt and we weren't on goodish terms. I don't totally hate him, it is just over.
Look forward to any advice you can offer.
Me and my husband separated in December, then he got called up to go to Iraq. Thing is, he wants us to get back together and sort things out when he gets back but I don't think it is a good idea. I do still love him but we are not good together.
Only thing is I don't want him to get hurt out there and we have agreed to keep in touch. I don't want to lead him on and don't know what to write to him about. Leaving out how much I love him will hurt him but if I put it in he will get false hope.
I didn't write to him at first but I got letters from him begging me to write. What am I supposed to do? I want to keep in touch so his mind is on the job he has to do but how do I answer his requests about working things out. Do I lie and then drop him when he gets back or do I just tell him it's deffinately over and risk him not having his mind on his job out there? He said he can't go on without me? I am so worried about doing the wrong thing. Couldn't bare it if he got hurt and we weren't on goodish terms. I don't totally hate him, it is just over.
Look forward to any advice you can offer.
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If he gets the wrong message then you'll just have to firmly but gently set him straight. You certainly shouldn't lie and 'drop him' when he gets back...