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Being messed around
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I'll try and keep this short.
Last weekend my girlfriend and I made plans for this week, saying we wouldn't see each other Wednesday and Thursday and then see each other on Friday.
Anyway, Wednesday she turns around adn says that she's got stuff to do Friday and says she wants to see me on Thursday instead, but I had already made plans at this point to see a mate on Thursday night. I said i'd cancel if she really wanted to see me, she said no go out, but we agreed that i'd keep it short and see her afterwards. (my mate was happy just to go for a couple of drink after work anyway).
So last night, I met up with my mate, fine, stayed with him for a couple of hours and then headed off home, text my girlfriend to say I was leaving the pub. When I get home I get a text saying that she's not going to see me anymore because it's not worth it (it was 9:00pm, not exactly late, seeing as if she came tound she would have probably left at 12:00).
We then spent the next hour and a half with me trying to get her to come round and see me, and her just saying she wants to but it's too late now. In the end she said that if it was still 9:00 she would come round, but by now it was 10:30!! :mad:
I told her not to worry and that I wasn't angry with her, jsut upset that I didn't get to see her when I was expecting to.
The problem is I am angry with her, I don't like people messing me about, especially not my girlfriend. I had to change my plans for her twice and ended up ending a night out with a mate early just to see her. I'm sitting here at the moment thinking about it all and getting madder and madder at her, but I don't know if I should bother saying anything to her. As far as she knows I was just a bit upset, but didn't see anything wrong with what she did. If I do say anything it's likely to ruin our weekend and cause an argument, and I know it'll be turned round to me and i'll feel bad for "trying to make her feel guilty".
Should I just keep my mouth shut (like I normally do!!)? Is it not really a big deal anyway? So what if she kept changing our plans and cancelled on me at the last minute?
Last weekend my girlfriend and I made plans for this week, saying we wouldn't see each other Wednesday and Thursday and then see each other on Friday.
Anyway, Wednesday she turns around adn says that she's got stuff to do Friday and says she wants to see me on Thursday instead, but I had already made plans at this point to see a mate on Thursday night. I said i'd cancel if she really wanted to see me, she said no go out, but we agreed that i'd keep it short and see her afterwards. (my mate was happy just to go for a couple of drink after work anyway).
So last night, I met up with my mate, fine, stayed with him for a couple of hours and then headed off home, text my girlfriend to say I was leaving the pub. When I get home I get a text saying that she's not going to see me anymore because it's not worth it (it was 9:00pm, not exactly late, seeing as if she came tound she would have probably left at 12:00).
We then spent the next hour and a half with me trying to get her to come round and see me, and her just saying she wants to but it's too late now. In the end she said that if it was still 9:00 she would come round, but by now it was 10:30!! :mad:
I told her not to worry and that I wasn't angry with her, jsut upset that I didn't get to see her when I was expecting to.
The problem is I am angry with her, I don't like people messing me about, especially not my girlfriend. I had to change my plans for her twice and ended up ending a night out with a mate early just to see her. I'm sitting here at the moment thinking about it all and getting madder and madder at her, but I don't know if I should bother saying anything to her. As far as she knows I was just a bit upset, but didn't see anything wrong with what she did. If I do say anything it's likely to ruin our weekend and cause an argument, and I know it'll be turned round to me and i'll feel bad for "trying to make her feel guilty".
Should I just keep my mouth shut (like I normally do!!)? Is it not really a big deal anyway? So what if she kept changing our plans and cancelled on me at the last minute?
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So she will keep doing it in the future!
Plus all your doing is building up aggression towards her, which is not good...
I think you need to sit her down and have a talk to her about it!
the thing with that conversation you had- her changing her tune when it was too late, seems to me that she was trying to make a point, maybe she had decided she wanted you to totally pass up on seeing your mate in favour of her, so maybe she was getting you back for still going out, but in the course of the conversation she realised that actually she didn't mind that much and would have liked to see you afterall? i dunno, thats just my interpretation. i'd say have a talk, dont necessarity be aggressive and accusing, just try to be reasonable, and say that you dont think it was particularly fair- you tried to accommodating and compromising afterall, you'll probably be able to guage from her reaction whenther she feels bad about messing you around, or whether she doesn't see herself as being in the wrong (in which case theres a problem)
good luck!