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How have ur past relationships affected your future ones??
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how has everyone on here been affected by bad experiences with members of the opposite sex in the past??? how did the experience make you feel in relationships and life after it ended??
Me: My 1st relationship made me very wary of commitment and made me find it hard to love someone - although with help from firneds+my b.f, ive gotten over it. Think deep down, il always be abit wary of new people though.
Me: My 1st relationship made me very wary of commitment and made me find it hard to love someone - although with help from firneds+my b.f, ive gotten over it. Think deep down, il always be abit wary of new people though.
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Unfortunately, I couldn't shag around if I tried.
Bugger.
bit of a bugger really.
Also I'm happy that my past relationships ended. Because they've led me to greater things, and I'm worth a million times more than what they could EVER give me. So yeah taught me alot, and I know I'll never look back. Not when I've got what I want:) And thats my self respect, my friends, my future
Yep, me too!
I used to think my relationships would never end, now I find it hard to believe my girlfriend will want to be with me past next month. It's really horrible. I would love to have a very long future with my girlfriend, but just can't trust anyone not to leave me when I least expect it!
Other than that I've forgotten all about that past horrid relationship. Done and over and I do believe nothing has carried over. Its a clean slate.
However with him, alot of his past affects things. It quite bothers me. If I can let a past broken hearted years of hell failed engagement go and not affect what we have going now, why can't he. It seems like he doesn't even try.
without going into detail... and in a nutshell... i'm still completly f*cked up, totally as a result of bad experiences in past relationships. i cannot really function in a heterosexual relationship tbh.
Suppose ultimate thing I have learnt is that you are kidding yourself if you think your going to meet somebody else that will think past what they want.
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Everyone is different and not trusting them because of past bad relationships
it is not giving a lot of chance to your new one...
Wow someone going through almost the same as me lol!!! I never have love for relationships anymore, my latest one I said I love her but dont mean it at all. Call me whatever but I know she doesnt love me either lol, I dont think I will ever safely say them three words to a person I am with and mean it, sad but meh its you girls that made me feel like this *points* :P
I learnt alot from my first one, made me a lot stronger but it was hard and hurtful! Then the next few were always great at first then something happens. Same thing applies to my latest one, seems to be a pattern and i just cba playing games with feelings (something I dont do) or being dishonest.
I learn from them and try not to go wrong the next time round, but now I dont think im doing much wrong it must be just who I am? lol
I now find myself doing my own things and enjoying them a lot more rather than focusing on relationships, doing great for me
Move on, forget it - life is too short.
Done.
G.
I think it's important to take the good from your experiences and learn from the bad (thus I've learned nobody is worthy of trust).
i think the problem in my past has been me taking relationships much more seriously then the other half, because i want someone long term and don't want to worry about finding someone else in the future.
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I had a bad experience when I was 18 with a guy who I thought I knew really well, turns out I was completely wrong its beyond belief how wrong actually.
My past relationships have always ended badly and I've never been able to stay friends with any of them. All of this means I generally panic and leave a relationship before it looks like its getting serious, that way I wont get hurt when it goes wrong.
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I feel very uncomfortable around a lot of men now, and some people who in the past, I have been fine with, now if I am alone with them (even if they are just good friends with me) just make my skin crawl - its terrible! I hate it soo much. Some of my male friends have even started commenting on how sometimes if they make just a random remark I just seem to freak out and just emotionally shut down, which makes me seem very cold and distant.
I went through a massive stage of pulling random blokes to boost my self esteem when I was younger, but even if I really liked them, afterwards I would just cry and feel so depressed.
I think a lot of it had to do with confidence. Now I have a great live, full of people who love me, I am finally sort of beginning to think (nice things) about the opposite sex again. Hurrah!
From being burnt myself it has made me untrusting of new relationships, especially with guys that have had many gfs before me. Theres a reason that they never last, and sometimes that reason is cos he cant keep his dick in his pants. I know people can change as change is all part of growing up, but that doesnt make it hurt any less.
Also, I never go so the same type of guy twice, reason being is that I dont want the same mistakes to be made. They may all have similar physical charictaristics but their personalities are always very different.
I'm with a new guy now, and taking things slow. I dont want to get burnt or end up to comfortable to soon. I really like him and i've made sure I got to know him before I said I'd be his gf. I've heard good things about him and I hope he treats me right, I know that I will. I've made my mistakes and I've learnt from them. Hoping that this one will stay good for longer.