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My mum knows that we do it and says as long as they arent in the house...
But until she knew, he was sleeping on the couch. But now he's allowed to sleep in my room, we do it when everyone has gone to bed, and not on my bed coz it squeaks!!
His parents are quite Catholic and dont allow us to sleep in same room, so we do it on the couch when they've gone to bed or else when they arent home. Or... just be risky
We are both 17 going on 18 and so it just really depends on the "oppourtune moment" and your 'rents.
To be honest, at your age you should be paying rent anyway, and as soon as you are they can't use the "my house, my rules" thing, because you can just threaten to move out, and most parents don't want you to move out, they want you here where they can keep an eye on you.
well, there are reasons why i didn't want to go downstairs. reasons that would shock some. i'd rather not say. well, i'll just say her parents abuse more than one illegal substance and i didn't want to have anything to do with it or see it or anything.
Yeah exactly. Ever since i was 16 i've been allowed to have boyfriends stop over and stuff, i couldn't imagine it now being 19 and not being allowed to have anyone stop over, must suck.
Thanks for all of your replies - never realised it'd be such a discussion point!
My parents are great, my even dad fitted a lock on the outside of my door, and one on the inside, again, no questions asked.
Whenever I'm in my room, I always get a knock and 'are you decent' and then they'll come in. (I'm nearly 20 and don't pay rent.)
I suppose, if your parents know you respect them, they'll respect you and your privacy.
Ilora x
In my view, having sex in your own home is not disrespectful - you are an adult and if they would let other adults stay over the house (in a guest room for example) together whether or not they were married, then that seems to me that they don't have a problem with the idea of having other adults have sex in the house. As long as you excercise discretion, don't wander around naked or make loads of noise then I don't see what the problem is.
So yeah, ultimately I would suggest trying and talking to your mum about it, seeing how she feels about it now and whether or not she feels the situation would change in the future - for example if you were to move in together but then wanted to come back and visit, would she even let you sleep in the same room then. Ultimately if both sets of parents feel very strongly against it then you have to respect that, and the only thing you can do is as others have suggested - find other places, do it when everyone is out etc.
a few years back with my ex gf we there was nowhere we could have sex, no chance in either of our houses, so we just made do with all sorts of other places
just throw a pillow down on the floor and get her on her knees!
(lucky for me my gf is tiny so if worst comes to worst i can just pick her up
Could be your alternator....
I'm 20 in May and I'm not allowed to have my boyfriend upstairs in my room, let alone stop over. May I add we've been together for a year and are practically engaged. I go round to his but I'm not allowed to sleep there. Pointless as my mom knows we sleep together.. a tad overprotective, when she found out he'd been coming up to stay with me at uni she went bonkers and, I later discovered, told my boyfriend's dad she'd castrate my boyfriend if I got pregnant. Nice one mom!
Yet she never bat an eyelid when I stayed out all night several times at boy's houses a couple of years ago, crawling in at 6 am. Parents.
there are nicer places to have sex than in a car!
You'll hopefully find the situation changes with time, especially when it finally clicks that you're both serious. When I first stayed round at my boyfriend's house when we'd been together nearly 18 months, he was 23, I was 20, his mum banished me to the spare room, and for a good view visits after that.
One time his gran was staying over the same weekend as me so had the spare room. His mum asked him to sleep in the living room while I had the bed. He refused, said it was silly; we'd been together over 2 years, his mum could tell his gran whatever she liked, but we were both going to sleep in his room. End of story. So we did.
Then, when I finished uni, I moved in with my boyfriend and his mum. Yes, we're both in his room and in a double bed to boot. His gran lives with us all full time, but there's no more of this pretending he's sleeping in the living room malarky. Funny how times change.
theres a million things outside you could bend someone over
The moral of the story is that we had sex 4times... hahaha
Me and my fella are long distance relationship so of course when we are together we wanna get horny and such. BUT my parents dont let us sleep together at night (strict)
On the other hand, its not all bad because HIS parents are totally fine with it! :yes: Not to mention if mine go out...
Its just, it'll be nice if we could spend nights together here instead, but oh well- we'll have to wait until we move out.