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Tight Vagina
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My girlfriend says that it even hurts her to stick a tampon up her, and is nervous about sex, and anything else b.c she thinks it will hurt. She is a virgin.
How would I go about not hurting her when I finger / have sex with her?
Thanks,
i see you
How would I go about not hurting her when I finger / have sex with her?
Thanks,
i see you
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Make sure she is relaxed and doesn't feel pressurised into doing whatever. Also take lots of time and make sure she isn't too nervous.
A lubricant like KY Jelly can also be really helpful in my experience.
lmao!!
yeah work on the fingers to stretch her a bit, and then just go for it - be gentle and check she is ok every now and again (i love it when guys so that ) and enjoy it - she will have to put up with a bit of pain cos most people do their first time, and just stick with it, it shud def not hurt by at least the 5th time i reckon
god luck!
Yup, me too. Is still a bit tight if I haven't had sex for quite a while.
Also when I've not had sex for ages and then I finally do get to see my boyfriend the *last* thing that I want to do is take things 'gently' and 'slowly'... which doesn't help the situation much.
Take your time with her and as long as she is relaxed it will be fine
Communication is the key to good sex.
it might just be me, but i had trouble using tampons even after i'd been having sex for years. even now there are still only certain types/brands i can use.
it's not usually an indicator of how sex will be, nor necessarily an indicator of size. when you come to have sex your body changes to accomodate. when you use tampons you are shoving a foreign body into areas of your body that are less than chuffed anyway due to the whole period situation.
with me sex= great
tampons= :no:
so it doesn't have to be that coz tampons hurt everything else will too. take it slowly though.
The first time we did it she said it burned for a bit, then went away, then came back later.. during our 7 mile bikeride... sneaking over when you can't drive is so worth it.
I went realllly slow and didn't go in that far until she said she wanted to start going.
LUBE
Oh right, you work in one of those 'surgeries' do you? Say no more :yippe: