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sex and living with parents
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Hiya everyone :wave: I really could do with some advice. I've been going out with my boyfriend for almost 3 years but just lately our sex life has become a real problem. We both live with parents and have brothers and sisters living at home and it's really difficult to get alone time! When staying at each others houses we're not allowed to share a bed (despite being nearly 20)! Anyone else been in this situation and can share their wisdom?
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leave home?
why the hell anyone would want to live with their parents any longer than they strictly have to is beyond me.
Ilora x
As for the sex thing you only really have 3 choices.
Wait untill every one is out
Do it with the doors locked/shut
Or rent a cheap hotel room/back seat of the car
As for the sex, either wait until everyone's out, or find somewhere else to romp!
Agreed, but off topic.
Surely you're not around your parents 24/7 or they are not home all that time. There must be a window of opertunity in there somewhere at some time.
They both live with their parents.
It's a tough one alright, I've no problem with it now as I'm at uni but back home it was awkward. I only ever got sex at house parties or if a girl or me had a free house or even on the street lol.
Do you stay in the same room?? Or is that implied that you don't and the cold has gone to my head?
My mum's fucking cool though.
Depends on what ur rents are like I suppose.
My advice is for the sex, do it late at night when ever one else is asleep in bed.
Oh god, I cant read, sorry for making you type it again
They are pretty open and stuff but I haven't even tried bring a girl home. I just couldnt face it. I know they'd rib me for it and no idea how they'd react. Plus wouldnt want them to hear!
I'd love to move out but I am practical. I have money but I know it would go pretty quick if I did. SO I am waiting till I have a job , a regular job and then I can move out.
I have only ever had one girl over at my house for fun and thats when the folks were on hols.
It is tricky. I dont drive either so no car fun
Im 23. we are not allowed to share a room. My mum walks in at every opportunity to check we are not up to anything.
When you find the answer, please share it before I go mad!
Sounds kinky! Cottage me baby! harder!
That doesn't sound fun at all.
But I had to wait till we'd moved house and got a lodger till I was aloud my bf staying over in the same room. My mum couldnt get away with saying to the lodger not to have his long term partner stay over, so I took advantage of this. I did ask her why and what she would do if he did stay over. But I ignored that in the end and let him stay in my room anyway. She never said a word.
Worried about what she'll do with my new bf tho. Not sure how long to leave it before i let him stay over....maybe a a month or 3. Just so she dnt think I sleep around.
it's hard sometimes. i've only been to her house once and she's only been to mine once. when i was there i didn't come downstairs the whole time i was there (8 days total) and her stepfather doesn't really like me now. her parents don't know we've had sex yet. i'm sure they'll find out this next time, as i'm staying there for a month. my parents know we have and are okay with it, but my mom has had 2 kids before me. her mom only works some nights during the week and her stepfather works in the early morning to the afternoon and they stay up late so there's always somebody home/awake. and when i was there her sister kept bursting in randomly so we never got very far with anything, which was a major drag. my parents are always nice though and knock before they do anything and they ask if it's okay to open the door before they do. sometimes we did things while they were home but we were quiet. i do hate being quiet though. but at her house her mom just yells for her so that's good too. i just hope her sister isn't there again while i'm there. i'm rambling, anyway, i think you just gotta be quiet, or go somewhere else or do it in a car(i would hate to have sex in a car, how awkward and uncomfortable).
Not suprised!