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Actually, they are. Text talk is not acceptable on this forum.
After that his old man didn't touch him again. Fact.
Show that you aint going to take it anymore. There's nothign else you can do. If you can get your brother in on it.
Going to the police would make things messy.
He's not picking on you. He'd say the same to any one using text talk
It does bug most people on this forum. It's full of bloody pedants and grammer nazis. Get used to it.
Exactly. I can't believe people are having a go at turlough for suggesting that he fills his dad in for assaulting him :eek2:
I hardly think a child molester is going to go to the police because his victim fights back.
Next time he tries anything slash the fucker. That's perfectly justified, morally & legally.
Actually there is
http://vbulletin.thesite.org.uk/showthread.php?t=87303
Now stop being such a stubborn bitch and turning this thread into, I cn tlk txt if i wnt, and leave it heping the poor guy whos quite sadly going thru a very tough time. (except for the moronic posts of beating the guy :rolleyes:
Because it's completely irresponsible.
Fight back, yes. But you use a weapon in a fight, and you will have the book thrown at you.
Oh, you'd be surprised.
Don't be ridiculous. You're saying you'd let yourself be raped because using a weapon is "irresponsible"!?
If his dad is bigger and stronger...which obviously he is...then there's little option when he tries to molest him other than let it happen, is there?
What the fuck are you on about?
Self-defence is alright. But not acting in self-defence, or going OTT, gives you a violence charge, a violence conviction, and a very close shave with prison if you're lucky. Chasing someone with a brick for revenging a beating gives you problems if someone complains. You'd be absolutely amazed how many of these fuckers bleat and whinge to the cops the second the victim gives them a beating.
If you're unlucky, it results in you getting done for murder.
What the fuck do you think I'm on about?
The next his dad tries anything, he is perfectly justified in using a tool on him. That isn't going over the top either, it's perfectly sensible.
surely its self defense ? (provided you pick something 'random' up thats nearby)
let someone official know, even if they arent going to do anything about it, at least that way you'd have some evidence if you were to do something back
and even at that, i really doubt his dad would try and press charges if he was to
don't grab a brick and batter him with it (although if i was in the position i probably would have done something extreme like that long ago) because if it came down to it you could get done for that, go for the picking something nearby up
... and quarfly etc, stfu and stop yapping about the text speak stuff, if you care THAT much pm the person doing it with that link you like to post so much/pm a mod and complain, its irritating as fuck and espically annoying when its a serious thread and people are just trying to help
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Abuse is a totally different game to fighting with people on the street where there's fuck all to gain from taking it up a level. Morality is utterly on your side and if dishing out it properly is necessary, so be it.
Going to the police is very dirrect. If you have evidence then your father will be convicted. The problem is having it dragged up and reliving it when it comes to the courts.
I'd make an appointment with your doctor. Staff in the NHS have been trained to spot tell-tale signs of abuse and will be able to help you biuld up a case (especially if there is evidence of a medical nature, eg: cuts, bruises, saliva, semen and so on) should you need it in future. Plus your doc is a portal to the councilling that you will need if you are to ever forgive yourself.
Speaking to a charity or support group for the abused is also a good stop. The numbers that are free don't show up on phonebills and you could make them from a pay phone if you can't reach the one in the house. You can call with as much or as little anomity as you like, and they won't whilstleblow straight away. Your welfare will be their primary concern.
You have to tell your mother at some point. If you include her before calling the police, she should be grateful you trust her, if you don't she might feel betrayed for being left out of the loop. When you do tell, expect the worst. Some things are so shocking that they are hard to believe, or that you don't want to belive them - your mum might get angry at you or defend her man, but only because she'd rather think it a lie than think it true. If she is being beaten by him hopefully she'll understand - but breaking away from an abusive partner is not easy so don't expect her to be too ready for anything. Just try and tell her.
Unless you can make him stop he will continue to abuse you, if you run away (not advised from some one whos been homeless) he might abuse someone else or do worst things to your mother. Its a bad deal, but you've got to bring him to justice - would you wish abuse to anyone else?
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Can I recommend a good author that may help, Dave Pelzer http://www.davepelzer.com/
He wrote a book called a child called it and then further book about how he basically lived through family abuse and how he dealt wth it as he got older. I know perhaps this may not be a direct help but honestly his books would be a good read for anyone in your position (or anyone who has someone close in the same position). Granted there is speculation over some of the truth to his books but at the end of the day, anything to help give yourself confidence to stand up for yourself and got to the people you need to go to will be good.
Good luck and I hope ypu are able to get out of this situation. It is a no win no win thing-you may lose your mom for awhile until she herself is able to be strong enough to realise what her husband is doing.
An ex, sister, possibly both the same person...