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I think I like girls
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For the past year I have realised I am attracted to other girls. I really like guys, but at the back of my mind I'm into girls a bit. Lately I have began to like a girl at school. I don't really talk to her that much but I talk to her occasionally as she's in a group of girls I hang around with in school. I've heard she used to like a girl a few months ago. Anyway, I don't know what to do. I do like her, but I suppose I'm scared of what people will think. I've always been like that. I can't really say I'm bi until I have an experience, I guess. I don't like the idea of going further than kissing with a girl either. Noone knows I like her, except a lad mate of mine. He doesn't know her or anything, but he said I should tell her or at least ask her if she likes me. But I don't even talk to her much. I think I should just forget about it. I'm just confused (I think) and it will probably go away soon. Hmm.. what do you think? I probably haven't explained myself properly.
I think this should be in "Relationships".
I think this should be in "Relationships".
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MY advice, Tell her, least the pressure will be of your chest, and who cares if your into girls, you are who you are. I can understand people might be wary about it in school but Sociaty now adays are becoming more accepting of same sex relationships, and most people don't care.
Good luck
Yeah ... a girl that went to the school i was at admitted she liked some other girl...and to be blunt, that made life pretty shit for her from what i could see
Might be an idea to keep it subtle and just try to get to know her first instead of just coming out with it!
you like who you like, if you reckon they might like you, go for it!
It could mean youre bisexual, it might not. I went through phases. I thought i was bisexual once, and at one point I even thought I might be a lesbian, but I never went "all the way" with a woman and now i identify as being straight.
If I were you, id just wait and see how things develop. You dont have to label yourself as any particular sexuality, although theres nothing wrong with defining yourself as bisexual either - a lot of people are, and know they are from a young age.
Has this girl given you any indication she might be interested or even bisexual/gay herself?
Try getting to know her as a friend - the closer you get, the more you'll be able to find out about her.
I do remember though, one lad joined the school and reacted badly to it, calling two girls "dirty lesbians". Needless to say, no one was particularly keen on him for it.
From being at the school for 4 years, I would say that generally, as a whole, the student body would accept anyone who came out apart from the odd person here and there. The deal with the 3rd former however, I think its just some of her classmates who are scared because they dont really understand that shes so comfortable with it, and maybe because of their age, a lot of them just dont have a level of maturity high enough to accept it. But dont quote me :chin: :razz:
I'd go along the be mates thing too because thats what i would do if it was a guy and it was me! Why should it be any different?
Very sound advice there! You dont sound sure of your sexuality yet, but you dont have to decide know, just see how things go. Most people go through this at some point in there lives. School can be a cruel place to come if you come out, there where a couple of people in my year who came out in year -11 or sixth form and had the shit taken out of them because of it. Teenagers just dont like people to be different espcially if their not sure of their own sexuality.