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Boyfriend lying to his parents! HELP
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Okay I just have a quick question.
If your going out with a guy for about six months and have not met his parents, is he just not in love enough or serious enough??
In my case my boyfriend is 26 and I am his first girlfriend by the way. My boyfriend has not told his parents that he has a girlfriend! He says he is afraid of what they are going to say. My boyfriend still lives with his parents! I hate that when we hang out he lies to his mom saying he is with guy friends at school!
So if his parents dont know about me (his girlfriend) is he using me or not loving me enough??
If your going out with a guy for about six months and have not met his parents, is he just not in love enough or serious enough??
In my case my boyfriend is 26 and I am his first girlfriend by the way. My boyfriend has not told his parents that he has a girlfriend! He says he is afraid of what they are going to say. My boyfriend still lives with his parents! I hate that when we hang out he lies to his mom saying he is with guy friends at school!
So if his parents dont know about me (his girlfriend) is he using me or not loving me enough??
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Though the solution is easy, just tell him to wise up and take yo to them. And if he says no, just call at his house and say "Hi I'm X's girlfriend, please to meet you"
He's 26 and he tells his mum he's hanging out with guys at school? Why is it so important to people to meet your partner's parents in the early stages? I'm not arsed at all but maybe I'm just strange.
maybe a good idea or maybe he would kill you
i would advise him to get a spine he's 26
He does still live with his parents though
Maybe its a Norman Bates type of situation.
To be serios though, hes 26, he lives with his parents, he can't even tell his parents the truth on where he goes at night, and thats still after 6 months. No wonder why your his first girlfriend. You may like him but from the sounds of it hes not worth your time.
It doesn't mean that he doesn't love you - it's probably just a sign that he doesn't get on well with his parents. If you're in any doubt, just suddenly ask him out of the blue, "so why won't you let me meet your parents, then?".
I'm determined not to do the same thing, though. I'm off to university later this year, after which I'm hoping I can move out of here for good.
just ask him. :yes:
maybe he was lying about her being his first bf; i don't know do i?
After that ponderation, why not take the initiative and introduce yourself to them as his gf. You are in their house after all, it's only polite
I have to agree, he is 26, yet he can not tell his parents that he has a girlfriend after 6 months of being together.
Ok so my boyfriend who was 26 when we started going out did not tell his parents about me until after about a month. But that was because he really thought there would be no point until we where both sure about the relationship, as he is 6 years older then me. I think he was also slight worried about what his parents would say about me being that much younger then him.
just make sure you are both honest with each other- you about your concerns and wishes, him about his reasons.
"After that ponderation, why not take the initiative and introduce yourself to them as his gf. You are in their house after all, it's only polite" ~Turlough
=Nope I have never been to his house, he hasn't let me into his house. He drove me to his house and showed me where he lived but is totally afraid of me going in there as a his girlfried. He has three sisters maybe that could be a reason?
"Though the solution is easy, just tell him to wise up and take yo to them. And if he says no, just call at his house and say "Hi I'm X's girlfriend, please to meet you" ~Mist
=But about calling him up and saying I am his girlfriend, that wont happen. His family is weird they never answer the phone to strange names that appear on caller ID. His mom was home my boyfriend told me that when I was calling and she wouldn't dare pick up my call. So it is just bothering that I have yet to meet the most important people in his life
With he and my boyfriend it was the other way round really, he told his parents in about a month where I waited a couple more months as I was worried about what they would say about the 6 year age gap, plus I really thought it would be best to tell them face to face. Which was a bit hard when I was up in halls.
Does he really live with his parents? Maybe he actually lives with his wife and kids!
Remind him of that.
Good thinking.