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problem with my sex life - i cant keep up with him!!
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hi all!
this problems been bugging me for ages now, and i really need advice for it!
Basically, my b.f lasts ages in bed!! i mean, we can actually be having penetrative sex for about 35mins solid before he cums! And my problem is, this hurts me! im always turned on enough, we do lots of foreplay, but after 15-20mins of constant friction it stings to fuck!!!
Any advice?? because ive tried oral+hand pleasure on him beforehand, but this very rarely makes him cum or even get close!!
its upsetting me so much, bcos i end up asking can we stop! by which time, even though he hasnt cum, i normally have bout 4 or 5 times! i feel greedy and bad for not satisfying him!
Help please! has anyone else ever had this issue, girls or guys??
thanx
this problems been bugging me for ages now, and i really need advice for it!
Basically, my b.f lasts ages in bed!! i mean, we can actually be having penetrative sex for about 35mins solid before he cums! And my problem is, this hurts me! im always turned on enough, we do lots of foreplay, but after 15-20mins of constant friction it stings to fuck!!!
Any advice?? because ive tried oral+hand pleasure on him beforehand, but this very rarely makes him cum or even get close!!
its upsetting me so much, bcos i end up asking can we stop! by which time, even though he hasnt cum, i normally have bout 4 or 5 times! i feel greedy and bad for not satisfying him!
Help please! has anyone else ever had this issue, girls or guys??
thanx
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In terms of making him finish quicker, I can only suggest what you have already done, spend ages giving him foreplay and use lubrication. Sorry! :rolleyes:
Ask him to take it slow for a change. I find going slowley actually makes it happen faster for me, plus it will be a little easier on you!
if its got to the point where its gone on for so long youre losing interest, then thats another story, but then again, youre less likely to lose interest if it isnt hurting you.
nicebutdim - no, we haven't tried KY, il buy some tonite from work!
rainbrow bright - to be honest, sometimes i do lose interest, as he lasts so long and often all i can focus on is the pain!
I actually wondered if I had an STI too because ive never had this problem in the past, but then again, ive never been with someone as big either nor had sex quite as much. As I said, Lubricant has really helped because sometimes what your body can produce just isnt enough, even if you are really aroused.
http://www.mypleasure.com/store/shoppingguide/lube.asp?cat=guideindex
god, im panicking now!!! what sti could cause this?
I doubt it, I was thinking more along the lines of enjoyment, maybe you would prefer something else but aren't doing it (I mean position, location, times etc.) Or something else is on your mind and distracting you, work, stress etc. Or it could just be that you don't like sex for that long.
My girlfriend sometimes gets a bit dry after a while, but she loves penetration that lasts for ages, it's usually something else that causes it, like she has a lot on her mind, is tired or something like that.
i always worry its my fault he lasts long - that im not pleasuring him. but he's reassured me that he's always been like this.
If it's a problem for him, then stop him from masturbating, if he does it. It should help him come quicker.
Sex shouldn't be stinging, not after half an hour. Try using a bit more lube, and get your boyfriend to slow down a bit, to give you a rest during sex. Don't just stay in one position, either, so that his penis doesn't keep rubbing against the same part of your insides. If that doesn't work I'd suggest seeing a doctor about it, just to put your mind at ease. You could well have caused a slight rub or nick in your vaginal walls, which gets aggravated when you have hard and rough sex.
What about lifestyle? Stress and the like doesn't help matters.