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Thanks for the advice RB, he got here aroundd 5 and we went out for a drive because he felt uncomfortable around my flatmates. It's over, though, I think it was my decision...but like you said he'd made the decision for me. It's not as though there was any way to do it with dignity. We just sat there crying for ages, and then we came back and he left. I then went to the pub, of course, which in hindsight wasn't the best idea.
I can't quite beliieve thats' the end of that, so quickly and without any fanfare or drama. I want to text him now and take it all back, or wake up tomorrow and have dreamt it all. I don't even know that i feel sad, just empty...devestated really I suppose.
It does take a while to get your head round what happened. I wasn't even 15 when it happened to me, but we hadn't had any problems and he just got cold feet and ended it out of the blue which i guess is what hurt the most. I made the mistake of going out to a party the night it happened...well i was dragged out and people kept buying me drinks to cheer me up and after a while i was up on the dancefloor. Felt even worse the next morning!
But yeah...it will take a while, it was months before i was even myself again. But i think sometimes it might be easier to end it because it wasn't working/someone cheated because at least then you have good reason to end it. Instead of ending up like i did....wondering what i'd done, wondering why he ended it. And then ending up suicidally depressed. Which i'm sure you won't whenever you start to regret it or whatever....just remind yourself what he did. He obviously has no respect for you....do you really want a guy like that?
I'm thinking of you, hon. I haven't got anything to say what those three muses 1983, Miffy and RB haven't said already. If you need a car to get your stuff I only live down t'road, and I'm "between jobs" at the minute anyway:)
and the only thing i have to add i guess is that "time heals all" (so i've been told lol)
A slanging match would most definitely have been very gratifiying, you're right, in the short term anyway. Too late now anyway, and I suppose I can feel mature and dignified...well to a degree.
Thanks for thinking of me though; if and when I decide to go and get my
millions of things from his flat I'll most definitely bear that in mind, you're a darlin'.
How true. I'm wavering between being incredibly regretful, feeling really lonely and being proud of myself for not drawing the entire thing out. I suppose it's a combination of the three, at least I've got things to do that take my mind off it/him.
Basic Instinct & MzInnocent, thank you two, these are the things I need to hear right now I think.
slanging matches are all very final and stuff, but you don't half make a fanny of yourself. you have done the best thing by walking away, leaving him looking like a tit.
hope you feel better soon
Hee, that gave me a good giggle. Thanks for that.
Cheers, will deffo do so.
me too! xxx
I hope you mean it does sound like I'm better off without him. But I know what you meant, and yeah I probably am. Thanks, hon.
MrG we'll definitely go out on the pop soon, ranting is most definitely in order.
I'm most sorry
i'm like catchphrase. just say what i see.
and the way i see it, handling a break-up the way you have attracts sympathy. handling it by ranting and screaming and torching his house/car/belongings attracts pity.
people are thinking 'poor love, how could he do that to her', rather than, 'poor desperate, crazy lady.' you are doing well. stick with it!