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at my wits end with flatmate
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i know a lot of students have to deal with this... but this is extreme and atm it seems to be beyond dealing with.
basically, all my flat mate ever does, all the time that she is here, is play VERY loud clubbing / house music. - it turns my room practically into a night club and goes on until the early hours of the morning every night. she won't come out of her room or open the door or anything. she constantly hibernates in there and hardly ever comes out.
i did write a polite note before and i put it under her door asking her to turn her music down - did no good what so ever, although hours later she did turn it off for a bit.
i am honestly, beginning to feel at my wits end because i cannot do anything at home. i cannot concentrate on anything either, i'm knackerd because i cannot sleep except for a couple of hours when it goes quiet in the night. i cannot even put my music on to listen to without hers drowning it out. ear plugs don't work. the walls shake and the ceiling and floor vibrate as well. most of the time i don't want to be at home. - and i feel like my nerves are on edge now all the time and i'm doing stupid things to try and cope. - i'm even taking temazepam to sleep - but i cannot sleep; and my emotions are all over the place too: lack of sleep and having to listen to that constantly: and i'm crying at everything.
i'm thinking i'm going to try and contact the landlord on monday and she if she can do anything?!! - IF she is able to talk to my flatmate - but until then can anyone help or offer advice or anything?!
basically, all my flat mate ever does, all the time that she is here, is play VERY loud clubbing / house music. - it turns my room practically into a night club and goes on until the early hours of the morning every night. she won't come out of her room or open the door or anything. she constantly hibernates in there and hardly ever comes out.
i did write a polite note before and i put it under her door asking her to turn her music down - did no good what so ever, although hours later she did turn it off for a bit.
i am honestly, beginning to feel at my wits end because i cannot do anything at home. i cannot concentrate on anything either, i'm knackerd because i cannot sleep except for a couple of hours when it goes quiet in the night. i cannot even put my music on to listen to without hers drowning it out. ear plugs don't work. the walls shake and the ceiling and floor vibrate as well. most of the time i don't want to be at home. - and i feel like my nerves are on edge now all the time and i'm doing stupid things to try and cope. - i'm even taking temazepam to sleep - but i cannot sleep; and my emotions are all over the place too: lack of sleep and having to listen to that constantly: and i'm crying at everything.
i'm thinking i'm going to try and contact the landlord on monday and she if she can do anything?!! - IF she is able to talk to my flatmate - but until then can anyone help or offer advice or anything?!
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"turn that @#*£$%# music down or i'll @~#^&(* (insert threat here).
Or how about a taste of their own medicine, as soon as they go to sleep then turn your music up full blast but play something you know they will hate.
i don't really want to threaten her. although in all honesty i wish i could take her out of her room and beat her to a pulp and smash her stereo... but i won't.
If not, go in her room when she is next out, and disconnect a wire from the plug of the stereo.
Thats just a short term solution so that you can have a bit of peace.
You need to speak to your landlord though. Sound pollution after 11pm is illegal for a start
better still, unplug it, unscrew the plug, take the fuse out, screw it back together, then leave everything as it was when you found it :thumb:
we've all got locks on our doors.
Think of the consequences though...got to be sneaky about these things. If she opens up the plug to find the fuse gone then she will know its been removed, as fuses dont just disappear from plugs. Then Otter may face her playing her music even louder/for longer, as a punishment for removing her fuse.
If otter simply disconnects a wire then the finger cannot be pointed
Shame
hmm true, I hadn't quite thought that through... :chin:
After a few sleepless nights survival kicks in for me, I would suggest torching her hi fi and blaming it on a crazy person (obviously not yourself) or make her so scared she wont do it again.
Seriously though, I would have a direct chat with her if thats useless try the landlord and if all else fails try and find somewhere else to live and find out about the tenants first.
I know how you feel with the sleep though, drives you mad, makes you crap in performance, etc
Or just tell her to shut the f*** up and trip the fuse for the upstairs electrics at bedtime...
Other plan is when you wake up- say 6am play your music insanely loud. I found Guns N Roses - Welcome to the Jungle is abrasive enough at full blast to stop people doing it. Just inform them it happens every time they keep you awake.
Oh and on the trip switch idea, it even better if you can find the localised trip switch for that room if it has one.
Don't go into her room, no matter how tempted. There is a good chance something will go wrong, and she'll get in touch with the landlord about entering her private residence - which is almost certainly worse than just noise pollution.
Spray some ammonia under her door. That should help her leave the house a little
Your landlord is the best bet. Phone them late one night and complain that despite repeated requests, she will not play music at a sensible volume at sensible times. Call your landlord each night until the situation is resolved. Also consider holding payment until the problem is addressed - don't try and get out of paying any rent; just use it as a measure to help persuade that action is required.
Good luck
To be honest i can't believe you haven't done anything sooner about it, especially if it's bringing you to the point of crying and making you feel uneasy and tired. First give her a warning (so you can always tell the police/landlord that you did and gets you out of more trouble if you get in some), but don't let it be a 'sensitive' warning like someone else suggested otherwise she'll just think you're a walk over and keep on doing it, but don't swear either. Just say like 'you're gonna have to stop playing you music so loud cos i can't sleep.' If she doesn't comply get into her room one way or another and take her stereo away and deny you took it. Then that evening knock on her door saying you're going out for the night, rig up her stereo and play it as loud as you can ALL night long with the door locked so she can't get in, with like Slip Knot playing or something, or record weird annoying noises like a baby crying or a siren, put them onto a CD and play them. That'll really piss her off.
Screw the landlord/police you can have some fun here getting her back, the options are endless, im getting excited just thinking about how you could get her back. Good Luck, tell us how it goes.
But that isn't the mature way
An interesting idea, though the resultant sparking electrical arc could potentially start a fire that will burn down the flat. Bit extreme in my opinion.
I'm a bit confused why you sent your flatmate a note, instead of actually speaking to her.
I'd try everything possible to sort it out with the flatmate before involving outside parties to be honest.
Killing the power at the fuse box seems like a reasonable idea.
Really. Are you insane? You want to pour water into the back of someone's stereo?
Fuck's sake.
chances are the flatmate would never click on as its doubtful the stereo would blow up so to speak, it would just deaden the fuse and make it useless.
Ahh well then in that case I guess it's perfectly acceptable to prepare for murdering your flatmate by loading her stereo with water. :rolleyes:
A friend had this problem with a flatmate so what we did was:
Go into their room. I picked the lock and in we where.
Pull out the cables from the speakers but only just a little bit.
This makes them unstable electrically and eventually they'll burn out.
Plus it makes them think something's seriously wrong with their stereo as it screws the sound really bad.
Now when they come back you tell'em that if they keep playing the stereo that loud: "the stable natural magnet in their audio output wind-tunnel of the sub-woofer will eventually come into electrical and mechanical contact with the mobile electromagnet on the playback head's end thus permanently destroying the unifomrity of the reflection cones in the speaker hence it will be destroyed."
Sit back and wait. It will only take a little time for the speakers to blow out.
They'll need to buy new ones.
In the case of my friend the flatmate decided to use headphones which he found out would give him a real bad headache. So he stopped listening to loud music.
If it doesn't work you can always call the cops. If THAT don't help the only option I can see right now would be: http://world.guns.ru/sniper/sn46-e.htm
Talk to your flatmate, in person, explain that she's making life uncomfortable for you.
Sugoruyo, the barret would be better
she doesn't come out of her room though, or answer the door or anything. (thats why i wrote a note, Mist)
thanks for the replys you guys. you've given me some rather insane ideas... but hey! the way i'm feeling atm i might just be tempted to act on them. :angel: - i wonder how being provocked stands up in court?! - then again, i'm too fu*king nice to do anyone any real damage.
What you mean the one they call the light fifty? I don't think so. It's older less hi-tech and stuff but let's not start a gun argument here.
No, you are not getting old, most of the replies have been stupidly immature.
Communication is the key. Not injuring or murdering her
So you're saying that she lives in her room and never eats, drinks or goes outside?
Most of the replies in here have been insane nonsense. And I don't believe that the law is passed yet, so planning and killing somone under provocation would still land you a murder charge.