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My missus is having some bad trouble with her nutter of an ex. Last Monday he went round her house, smashed the place up and beat the shit out of her which ain't the first time his done it either as his always on her case when his pissed or high, gets into a foul mood and slaps her about or gives her death threats via her mobile. Next day when his sober his all "ohh I'm sorry I still love you" and all that crap. His like this because 1. he cant have so he thinks nobody else can and 2. he just wants to give her as much shit as he can because he is a pathetic wimp.
Any way, she won't tell me who he is or where he lives because she knows I'd go round to his house and kick ten bells of shit out of the bloke!
So since giving him a sound kicking (which will just come back on her) is out of the question there is always the police. Now she would like to get a restraining order against him but the last time she tried this he violated it and beat her again and only got a fine and some suspended sentence or something, so it's quite a tricky situation and I'm not actually sure what to suggest because if he cannot make her life hell other people will, so I'm kinda stuck for ideas apart from changing her phone number and moving which she plans to do soon as.
Any way, she won't tell me who he is or where he lives because she knows I'd go round to his house and kick ten bells of shit out of the bloke!
So since giving him a sound kicking (which will just come back on her) is out of the question there is always the police. Now she would like to get a restraining order against him but the last time she tried this he violated it and beat her again and only got a fine and some suspended sentence or something, so it's quite a tricky situation and I'm not actually sure what to suggest because if he cannot make her life hell other people will, so I'm kinda stuck for ideas apart from changing her phone number and moving which she plans to do soon as.
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Then if and when he does turn up you'll be there ready and waiting...
Get her to change her number then
But can you just do that without giving a reason?
My new sim should arrive tomorrow and as I was having problems with a sort of ex boyfriend, (we never really went out) they are going to give me my new sim for free and give me £5 free credit so that I can text everyone in my phone book. The lady I spoke to in the shop was really understanding as her daughter how is my age also had a ex boyfriend how was hassling her, so she siad as I've been with them for 6 years £7 was not going to kill the company. (Well she was the manager).
I've done it. Actually, my excuse to my parents was something about getting a phone call from someone who witheld their number (why does anyone do this?) and because there's someone who won't leave me alone...
:yes:
I'd do my best to find out where he lives, go round and spark the cunt out. Fuck getting the gavers involved.
she should also change her locks and get a panic alarm or something. how is he getting in?
i know for a fact that 3 men in my life would personally beat the shit out of anyone who harmed me....sometimes its the best way tbh. give them a taste of their own medicine
Yep you're right - giving him a sound kicking will solve nothing and think how grim it would be for her to lose you if you got in serious trouble for it. Has she considered going to a women's refuge for a while? The people who work at the refuge will be able to help her take her next steps and get some legal advice. Why not have a read of the link and ask her if it's something she's considered.
:yes: I've read some serious stories about this kind of thing in the papers recently.
Soon as she moves, find his address and slap him about. Going to the police is all fine and well, but to some people that ain't a deterrant.