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Hating compliments
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Anybody else hate compliments?
Somebody last night... Well I think he might care for me more than a friend though I shouldn't... Said a lot of lovely things, but that made me sad. I can't take compliments, but I don't have low self esteem... I just hate them.
Can anybody relate?
Somebody last night... Well I think he might care for me more than a friend though I shouldn't... Said a lot of lovely things, but that made me sad. I can't take compliments, but I don't have low self esteem... I just hate them.
Can anybody relate?
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I feel uncomfortable, and that they're wrong. Though I suppose I do have very low self-esteem.
Compliments from sober people usually strike me as insincere...people looking to gain your favour or play mind-games with you.
Intoxicated compliments tend to be genuine though.
I'm a paranoid fucker at the best of times, but it's true
Decent looking girls will get genuine compliments regularly, not so much the case with guys.
However, a reaction to a specific action or the way someone looks at a certain time is a great way to compliment someone - it's that personal touch that can really make a difference to how we feel about ourselves.
And yes, I abhor compliments! From my boyfriend, they mean a lot...although they are very few and far between.
They just seem so...unnecessary. Does that make sense? I just think to myself: why the hell are you telling me this? Or, yeah right, just because you're so pretty.
Meh...I don't like it... but it happens.
It's ok though since i don't get them often..
Like kaffrin said, it's lovely when people compliment something you've made. A lady stopped me in the street to ask me where my woolly hat was from, and when I told her I'd made it myself she showered me with praise. I was chuffed to bits.
The flip-side is that I hate going on nights out etc, bumping into vague accquaintances and exchanging those stock "I love your hair/shoes/bag/whatever" lines. They very rarely ring true, and I always end up spouting them back to have something to say
Recently receiving a text from a bloke I'd longed for and knowing how much attention he usually gets he said "I am so chuffed that I have such a stunning girlfriend" I did let myself feel a little good too...just cause he could do so much better so I must have temporarily blinded him...ah!
But anyway, :flirt: to Malt.