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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

November 2000 in Sex & Relationships

I've just found out that my boyfriend of a year and a half has been looking at internet porn behind my back and he said he found it addictive, but felt guilty about it and wouldn't lokk at it anymore.

I felt really shocked, hurt and angry - am I stupid to feel like this and do you think I'm over reacting?

I really want to know cos he says it's normal for men to look at porn, but I found it disgusting.

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

November 2000

all men are going to look at porno stuff on the net, but if it's really that bad then maybe you wanna distract him..

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

November 2000

If he felt he 'had' to before, then having promise not to do it anymore probably won't do much good for either of you. It's ben proven that males respond better to 'visual' encouragment. So let him have his cheap thrills. Of course your not stupid to feel like this, it's not a nice idea - a mental picture of your boyf ogling someone else. But he probably didn't tell you because he DOES feel guilty about it. It's nothing personal.

*|* Chica *|*

Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

November 2000

What is so wrong at looking at porn, i just can't understand it! please reply
BaRt
Live Life On The Edge!

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

November 2000

Yeah its true, most guys like to look at porn. I wouldn't worry too much about it, but you're right to tell him it bothers you if it does.
Bart- I think a lot of women don't like porn 'cuz a lot of it is quite degrading.

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

November 2000

It was just a shock at first, maybe I'm naive. I do find it degrading, but I guess it's just something men do.

It was more than fact that it seemed deceitful and he denied it at first even though it was blatantly obvious (we were on his computer and he'd forgotten to delete his history files).

We've talked about it and I told him that I realised I can't stop him doing it, though he's said he won't do it again. It just makes me feel that I'm not good enough, and being a woman I guess I can't fully understand the way the male mind works though I try!

Anyway thanks for your comments, looking back I probably over reacted.

jj*

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

November 2000

IMHO a lot of guys look at porn. You may be over reacting slightly, but I do think he's being unreasonable if he carries on. Does he really need that much help to ejeculate? Whatever happened to taking matters into your own hands. What sort of porn is it? Are we talking just girls with their tops off or are we talking extremely offensive stuff?

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

November 2000

pretty gross stuff - if you want to know look up www.sextracker.com. Please let me know what you think.

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Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

November 2000

I must say as a bloke I'm not a big fan of porn, I find it degrading and think it should not be a way of life and a living for some women (and I know men do it as well but I find that different). I find it so far removed and unemotional, what's the point looking at something you can't touch. I would also consider table, lap and pole dancers, strippers etc in the same light. I have had female friends who have thought about becoming them and I have tried to persuade them it's not all that nice. Anyway just my humble opinion. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">

Oh annd I couldn't agree with the fact that you should be upset and annoyed. To me its inappropriate at any time but least of all when in a relationship.

[This message has been edited by ChunkyMonkey (edited 08-11-2000).]

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