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it was 2 years ago now anyway...
Tell him to fuck off this time if he tries anything.
Pepper spray is also very easy to make and highly effective :yes: .
Not that i have a problem with guys touching me up or anything, thank fuck :sour: .
If he trys anything, use it, and then explain why you had to, and about last time.
You sure you can buy pepper sprays in shops? If you can, i'm surprised more people don't carry them as it's a good alternative to CS gas (which is almost treated like a firearms offence i believe).
That should throw some cold water on the embers of his passion.
Or you could take his mobile when he's not looking and send a text about what he's been doing to kids to the entire content of his phone book.
You're not allowed in the UK, no form of self defence weapons. You're allowed rape alarms though, that might do the trick if you hold it up to his ear
One of those might deafen him, they are stupidly loud. I should know as I set mine off by accident once. Failing that a swift kick/elbow in the groin always does wonders.
Just kick him in the balls... Stand your ground babe.
Thats the reality anyway. The amount of epople who say if that was them they'd hit them, in real life you woudlnt. Just get out of the situation quickly. Be firm and dont look back.
I'm sorry if this wasn't the advice you were looking for, and I know its none of my business, but I've known sooooooooooo many people that this has happened to that it makes me really angry :mad: Mostly because this is something you shouldn't be dealing with in the first place, and secondly, because now that it happened you shouldn't be defending yourself on your own. I'm not saying you aren't able to, I'm just saying it just isn't right for you to deal with him alone, it shouldn't be a weight you have to carry on your shoulders alone.
And it's true what other people have said, he's counting on your silence about this, it's what gives him the ground to do it. And since this probably isn't the last time you're gonna see him, I think you really should try to put an end to the situation from the root: tell an adult about it. Or else, you're gonna be suffering every time you see him. It isn't easy to pluck up the courage to scream on the situation itself, it's much easier said than done.
Well, anyway I'm really glad you're taking all these measures to protect yourself: getting a guy friend to be with you, asking advice on how to keep him away and everything... congrats on that :thumb: You can never be too protected. Let us know how it goes if you feel like sharing it with us... we'll all be here if you need to talk.
Good luck!
its my birthday tomorrow....well today actually now! and i think they're sort of taking my birthday into their own hands and taking us all out to the cinema, which i don't really want to do because it should be up to me...but my parents will probably make us all go to be 'nice'
i'm just gonna keep a distance, thank you for all the replies