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Chica In Crisis!
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OK, it's been ages since I've dumped on you lot and I figured it's about time.
I got invited to a kinda 'mini-party' thingy for my friend's birthday, and I took Paul with me (aka my boyf and also my step-brother...if you don't know don't ask!) seeing as how we're all mates. Anywayz, I was getting a bit dizzy from all the smoke or something, so I went outside 4 a few mins, only to be faced with my ex, Satan. (Well, that's not his real name obv. but it suits him better than anything else.)
He was on his own smoking pot (he does that) and was his usual evil self, crapping on about how much of a loser paul is compared to him, blah, blah. I called him a tosser, and he went for me so I kicked him. (I had to, before you start, Gwai!) Then he said that the entire time we'd been sleeping 2gether, he'd been shagging one of my best mates who'd actually been encouraging me to ditch him, but then again everyone did.
I told him he was bullshitting and that I'd ask her and he said fine cuz it's the truth. I said (lying) that I don't really give a shit wot he'd been up to because it wouldn't be much. He called me a bitch and I called him a bastard, etc etc. I went inside and asked her about it in front of everyone and she didn't say anything, just stood there looking gormless. Satan laughed, I got angry and slapped her one.
I stormed out and Satan followed and I threatened to show all his stupid mates all the crappy little teddy bears he gave me to get me into bed (they're probably on their way to a landfill site as I type) and he said if I did he'd tell everyone about me and stepbrother which really shocked me cuz I had no idea anyone else knew, except my backstabbing 'friend'. He said she'd told him about me sleeping with him before Satan and I couldn't fucking believe it, I mean we've been friends since infants for god's sake.
Then he said the only way he wasn't going to announce it to all our friends (including my cousin who would definitely tell our family) was if I had sex with him one last time. I told him to fuck off because nothing was worth having to put up with his pathetic wham-bam. My boyf finally found round in the alley and saw Satan hassling me AGAIN and decked him.
He asked what the hell was going on and I couldn't tell him, coz if I do he'll go mad and do Satan some serious damage, which'll only make it worse, coz NO-ONE can know. Satan left a message on my mobile saying that I had until Saturady to make my mind up and if I "know what's good for me" I'll go round to his place on saturday night. He's basically blackmailing me to sleep with him.
What the hell do I do? I'm serious here, this could just blow everything up. Help!
*|* Chica *|*
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I got invited to a kinda 'mini-party' thingy for my friend's birthday, and I took Paul with me (aka my boyf and also my step-brother...if you don't know don't ask!) seeing as how we're all mates. Anywayz, I was getting a bit dizzy from all the smoke or something, so I went outside 4 a few mins, only to be faced with my ex, Satan. (Well, that's not his real name obv. but it suits him better than anything else.)
He was on his own smoking pot (he does that) and was his usual evil self, crapping on about how much of a loser paul is compared to him, blah, blah. I called him a tosser, and he went for me so I kicked him. (I had to, before you start, Gwai!) Then he said that the entire time we'd been sleeping 2gether, he'd been shagging one of my best mates who'd actually been encouraging me to ditch him, but then again everyone did.
I told him he was bullshitting and that I'd ask her and he said fine cuz it's the truth. I said (lying) that I don't really give a shit wot he'd been up to because it wouldn't be much. He called me a bitch and I called him a bastard, etc etc. I went inside and asked her about it in front of everyone and she didn't say anything, just stood there looking gormless. Satan laughed, I got angry and slapped her one.
I stormed out and Satan followed and I threatened to show all his stupid mates all the crappy little teddy bears he gave me to get me into bed (they're probably on their way to a landfill site as I type) and he said if I did he'd tell everyone about me and stepbrother which really shocked me cuz I had no idea anyone else knew, except my backstabbing 'friend'. He said she'd told him about me sleeping with him before Satan and I couldn't fucking believe it, I mean we've been friends since infants for god's sake.
Then he said the only way he wasn't going to announce it to all our friends (including my cousin who would definitely tell our family) was if I had sex with him one last time. I told him to fuck off because nothing was worth having to put up with his pathetic wham-bam. My boyf finally found round in the alley and saw Satan hassling me AGAIN and decked him.
He asked what the hell was going on and I couldn't tell him, coz if I do he'll go mad and do Satan some serious damage, which'll only make it worse, coz NO-ONE can know. Satan left a message on my mobile saying that I had until Saturady to make my mind up and if I "know what's good for me" I'll go round to his place on saturday night. He's basically blackmailing me to sleep with him.
What the hell do I do? I'm serious here, this could just blow everything up. Help!
*|* Chica *|*
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Don't sleep with him whatever happens.
If you do it once he can blackmail you again, with the incident as the card up his sleeve.
In my opinion, you should tell Paul & try to call Satan's bluff. Then if he spills the beans, you can chose to either deny it, saying that Satan would do anything to stir the shit, (or that you told Satan to wind him up lol) or you could bite the bullet & tell your family what turmoil you have been through and don't forget to tell them that your relationship started before your respective parents even met!
Or was your mother & his father at it secretly, when you were all on holiday?
Whatever you do, you are going to need Paul at your side & I assume he will need you at his, if the shit hits the fan.
Incidentally, isn't blackmail illegal? You could always threaten Satan with the police!
Good luck Chica
J9
I think you can probably take it to the police (aside from blackmail, couldn't this be related to rape in one way or another?). If you're not cofortable telling your family, then it's probably better not to - I don't know how understanding they're likely to be, but that's for you to judge.
I dunno aside from this...hope the above posts help in someway.
DM
He sounds like a right moran and deserves a good decking if you ask me.
I really sympathise with your position, but it's not as if you're blood related or anything, i don't think there'll ever be a right time to tell your family, it'll just take courage. But your friends should be a bit easier, if they're really good friends they'll support you whatever, they may react badly at first but that's to be expected.
Good Luck, don't let Saten crush you!
"some rarely touch it but it touches them often." Stanley, Streetcar Named Desire, Tennessee Williams
Anywayz, i reckon u should definitely NOT sleep with this guy.
He is such a tosser that he probably won't tell anyone anyway.
If u did sleep with him who is to say that he wouldn't keep coming back for more?
If u r really seriously into your step brother and want a future with him u will have to come out of the closet sooner or later.
LOL! If u do it will really piss on Satan's fireworks <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
As for the step brother, well it aint incest so fuck what everyone else thinks.
Umm only thing I can offer, is tell your friends. Also tell your parents - you don't have to tell them all the details, just tell them that you have feelings for your stepbrother, or whatever. Also you could tell them 'bout what Satan said, maybe not the sleeping with you part but how he's trying to blackmail you or whatever. That way if he ever did try to tell them something they could tell him to F* off as well. Just an idea.
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Satan got my little sister on her own and said I had a 'secret'. I slapped him. No-one uses my 9 year-old sister. But it made me realise that he WILL tell her. And she'd be disgusted and not understand why I'm seeing the lad she calls her brother. It's sick. He's given me another week to decide what I want to do. But if he tells my family it'll destroy them. I don't want to sleep with him. But maybe then it'd stay a secret.
Fuck.
*|* Chica *|*
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*|* Chica *|*
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Then take your mother to one side & tell her that you have a problem that you think you need her help with (mums just love that).
Start off telling her about a guy you met on holiday, that you fell in love with him & he with you, then go on to tell her what a suprise it was when she brought home your step-father for you to meet, she should begin to twig at this point.
Make sure that before you start, she has agreed to keep your problem between you & her.
You could then go on to tell her about what Satan has threatened, thus transfereing any uncomfortable feelings she has about your "problem" on to Satan.
Can you imaging Satan's face if when expecting you to turn up for your final fling (which it is unlikely that it would be) a uniformed officer turned up instead!!!
If you intend on staying with Paul, your family are going to have to find out at some point, telling your mum first & bringing her into your confidence is probably the best way. Then, tell each person (if you need to tell a few people) individually, taking each into your confidence & asking for understanding.
Whatever you do, please don't sleep with Satan.
I really wish you luck
J9
If you sleep with him, the next thing he'll do is blackmail you again.
Your stepbrother will find out, and he'll be pissed. Just tell people, and tell Satan to fuck off. Its the only way to act, otherwise he'll just keep on blackmailing you.
Why thank you Turtle <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
J9
I can only see one choice but it's easy for me to say that - hope everything goes well, my thoughts are with you.
Love from the ChunkyMonkey
*|* Chica *|*
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"some rarely touch it but it touches them often." Stanley, Streetcar Named Desire, Tennessee Williams
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I'm sorry I wasn't here to wish you luck Chica, but I'm thinking about you now, right now. Good luck mate, I know this is very difficult for you & I think you are very brave.
Take care
J9
When I managed to get a word in, I told all three of them about Satan blackmailing me...
Mum: What, that nice boy who used to spend so much time helping you tidy your bedroom?
Then it sort of dawned on her what we <b>had</b> been doing. I got called all the names under the sun and Paul suddenly ran off. To cut a long story short, my stepdad is getting used to it, the mothership is refusing to speak to her incestuous slutty daughter and Satan has a broken nose. Ground, swallow me up.
*|* Chica *|*
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I'm so sorry it was so volcanic.
I expect, given time, the water will settle. You will have an awful lot of family stuff to deal with now, your relationship with your mother will probably never be the same again, but it will improve, as long as you can open up lines of communication again. You might even find that you end up with a more open relationship with her in the end.
Your Mum is probably grieving for the loss of her child, in a sense. And it may take time to for her to come to terms with the fact that you are now a woman. She has probably got alot of shit flying around in her head right now, does she have someone she can talk to?
I understand that this is often a problem between mothers and daughters.
As long as you can get her to realise that niether of these relationships were one-off, one night stands etc.
I'm really not looking forward to the day when I realise that my daughter has had sex, but I know it will come (not a pun lol). Once your Mum calms down I'm sure she will respect your honesty.
I was sooo glad when I heard that Satan has a broken nose, not that I condone violence, but he deserved it.
Please stay here and let us know how things go. You know we all care about you.
Take care & smile sometimes.
J9
[This message has been edited by j9j9 (edited 15-11-2000).]