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What's more important?
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What's more important in a relationship....security and knowing the person cares for you no matter what or excitment and that "butterfly in stomach" feeling when you see them?
I know both would be best but what's most important?
I know both would be best but what's most important?
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I think that security and trust is a major major part. A big contribution to the butterfly feeling when I know my girlfriend is away is the fact that a) I miss her b) to think someone else could be trying to hit on her.
So you could say trust is of most importance. If you love one another, you devote yourself to one another...I think that's more important than the butterfly feeling.
Therefore I relate back to my arguement is it better for me to stay in the comfortable, secure, loving relationship or seek new exciting relationships and people who might give me that butterfly feeling?
Italian scientists recently worked out that said feeling only lasts about a yearh. It was on the BBC and everything. I'll try to find a link...
EDIT : Clicko
Not really if you actually read the article. It makes perfect sense.
Yus, I agree with this completely.
I would agree though I still get butterflies every now and again, like when he has been away on work etc. As although we have been together for a year now, he still manages to suprise me at times.
Good for you. It's all downhill after that.