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Here We Go Again...
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Okay, so I posted recently about problems with communication between my boyfriend and I. This has been totally sorted out. He couldn't make it to meet with me yesterday, but this was because of his work, and he told me how sorry and gutted he was. But because of this, he gets off work for Christmas early, meaning that our holidays over lap so we can see each other as much as possible. I appreciate this way of making things up to me.
But! My mum and my brother can't. My mum and my boyfriend used to get on really well, and because of family problems my boyfriend has, he'd often be over and able to have a heart to heart with my mum. His good friends and my brother's best friends are all the same, and so my brother and my boyfriend are both good friends. His other friends have forgiven him for the way he treated me because I have, but my brother hasn't. He gets on at me constantly about it. My mum says she's still very angry at my boyfriend for what he has done, and has even said that she's not sure that he's welcome in our home anymore.
Aren't they being unreasonable? Even if it is entirely understandable that they'd react in this way? I know it's just because they both care but fact is, if he's not welcome in our house...we've nowhere to go.
But! My mum and my brother can't. My mum and my boyfriend used to get on really well, and because of family problems my boyfriend has, he'd often be over and able to have a heart to heart with my mum. His good friends and my brother's best friends are all the same, and so my brother and my boyfriend are both good friends. His other friends have forgiven him for the way he treated me because I have, but my brother hasn't. He gets on at me constantly about it. My mum says she's still very angry at my boyfriend for what he has done, and has even said that she's not sure that he's welcome in our home anymore.
Aren't they being unreasonable? Even if it is entirely understandable that they'd react in this way? I know it's just because they both care but fact is, if he's not welcome in our house...we've nowhere to go.
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But is there anything I can do to straighten things out?
If he's let you down in some way (I can't recall your other thread) then he will have to prove that he has changed and is sorry for what he is done. It's probably easier for him to convince you of that than to convince your mum and brother, so that's why they're wary. Give them a chance to see that you and him are happy together and they'll eventually come round I'm sure.
You are officially awesome.
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