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How important is actually being able to touch another person to you?
I have several people I can turn to for a deep and meaningful conversation and they're all brillaint but sometimes you just need a hug or to have someone in your arms and give them a squeeze or have them running their fingers through your hair.
Looking at this website it says people need about 8 to 12 hugs a day
http://www.beststeps.com/Beststep.cfm?bs=419
http://www.survivingburns.org/HugTherapy1.html
I don't think I've even get 8 hugs in a year ... where do yo go when you just need a hug and what do you do when you've got no one ?
I have several people I can turn to for a deep and meaningful conversation and they're all brillaint but sometimes you just need a hug or to have someone in your arms and give them a squeeze or have them running their fingers through your hair.
Looking at this website it says people need about 8 to 12 hugs a day
http://www.beststeps.com/Beststep.cfm?bs=419
http://www.survivingburns.org/HugTherapy1.html
I don't think I've even get 8 hugs in a year ... where do yo go when you just need a hug and what do you do when you've got no one ?
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Physical contact is always good though.
I would love more hugs though.
i miss getting them so much, cause the 2 guys that do give me hugs live in the south
i just love cuddling up though, you don't need words
and then with my housemates we just say if we're feeling a bit needy or hormonal and we get hugs and cuddle up to each other on the sofa.
Thats maybe what I like most about the company someone even I'd say.
I am quite detached now though. Barely touch people at all and havn't had a hug in ages. Kinda fele uncomfortable when my mum or nan gives me a hug to. Its kinda worrying sometimes.
Thats fucked up.
We always cuddle in bed before we go to sleep :yes:
A lot of my friends are big on hugs whenever we meet up but it always feels awkward to me.
However, when I'm with my boyfriend, I hate being near him and not touching him. I'm not really a clingy or needy people, but it just feels weird him being there and me not touching him. I hate it when he walks away from me at the doorstep as he's leaving - makes me feel so isolated to be able to see him but not touch him. Maybe it's something to do with it being a LDR during the week...
Nope, i'm exactly the same.
I don't know about liking hugs more than sex, but I would say they are as important to me. It's a very different type of contact that means just as much, but just differently.
Edit: and I don't get 8 hugs a day unfortunately
Also a number of years ago I used to work in an office and one of the girls there and I would touch each other in playful ways, I never realised it then but now I can see we were probably comforting each other in little ways, like I'd tussle her hair as I walked by her, or she's pinch my cheek ...
Even if you watch chimps they spend their days constantly pruning each other.
I think our society is making us pull further and further away from touching each other, now if you met a girl you may shake her hand or do one of those fake cheek to cheek air kisses which I think are pointless.. years ago if you met a girl you'd actually kiss her hand.
A teacher could never give an upset pupil a comforting hug for fear of being sued..
I find the fact people are mentioning sex in this thread sad really, because things like hugs should be totally innocent
Even when at home with my parents I get lots of cuddles from them
That's sweet, but what do you do when you're not in a relationship?
Do you not need that much contact or do you have a backup plan?
I'm just the same I only see my boyfriend at the weekends too, due to his work comitments and my uni study, when we are together I seems to need alot of physical contact, like cuddling up with him on the sofa, holding hands etc when we are out, I love the fact that we always cuddle before we go to sleep.
Its strange since we have been going out I'm finding myself rolling my blanket round me so that it feels like someone is huging me when I sleep. I guess I'm just missing being close to my boyfriend.
It's funny though, there are friends I've had for years who I can't hug and then there are friends who I haven't known that long who I can. Both sides of my family are pretty huggy. Unlike my boyfriend's family!
Lol I sound so cold..
i only tend to hug guys who are very close to me, and i hardly see either of them