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Cant Make Her Orgasm !!! :(

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
Well, ive been with my g/f for 14 months now and shes told me that she hasn't had one since weve been together through penetration or being fingured :( :banghead: .

Weve tried different positions, clit rubbing while im doing it, varying speeds & angles etc etc but nothing. She says it feels nice but its kinda shattered my confidence a bit and makes me feel bad when she and I hear her mates saying how they were shaking all over and how their eyesight goes fuzzy.

Are there other girls like this or guys have you had this problem with your partners and if so did/have/ how did you get them to orgasm or is my g/f destined to be orgasmless :( .

Help & Input appreciated :)

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    She hasnt faked, I asked her if she had but she said no. Shes told me it felt good and the faster breathing and moans were cus of that but shes never had an actual BIG orgasm where she shakes, has blurry vision, cant walk etc even with her ex's.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Maybe her expectations are too high!

    Has she had an orgasm through masturbation or through oral sex?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    EmpzB wrote:
    but shes never had an actual BIG orgasm where she shakes, has blurry vision, cant walk etc even with her ex's.

    Doesn't always happen. Unfortunately.

    Maybe she could give you more guidance when you're down there, either during oral or when you're fingering her. If she knows what doesn't feel good (enough) then I assume she knows what does.

    Has she ever had an orgasm at all (not just a "big" one)? If not, then maybe she needs to get to know her own body a bit better, before she can achieve optimum satisfaction with you.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's probably more down to her than you.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Have to agree with what most people have said already. It is probably more down to her, and knowing her own body. Some women find it hard unless conditions are absolutely perfect... You say you haven't made her orgasm through fingering and standard penetration, how about oral?

    Variety, as they say, is the spice of life, treat her body with as many different sensations as possible; hard, soft, fast, slow, hot, cold... and most of all, relax, and enjoy each other :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Does she masturbate?
    She needs to know how to pleasure herself before expecting you to know how to pleasure her ya see.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    EmpzB wrote:

    Are there other girls like this or guys have you had this problem with your partners and if so did/have/ how did you get them to orgasm or is my g/f destined to be orgasmless :( .

    Help & Input appreciated :)

    try looking for someother erogenous zones. the qickest and easiest way for someone else to bring me to orgasm is to hold me down, face down and bite me. My 'spot' is where the top of my bum meets the bottom of my back (too much info?), but there are others and she might have 'em too- rather than the usuall lips-nipples-vagina&clit combo.

    Good luck

    x
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My fella kisses me all over. Its fantatsic! Started with a lovely passionate kiss then kissed my neck, nipples and then my back (that drove me crazy!!!) just gentle kisses all ova is awesome.................!!! :hyper:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My boyfriend can get me right of the edge of an orgasm by fingering, oral or penetration. But I've never been over the edge with him. Although when I masturbation I can orgasm. Its just werid as I almost slient when I orgasm on my own, when I'm with him I get a bit vocal and I suppose I get scared that his borther or parents might hear, its just as bad at my halls as the walls between rooms are so thin.

    So either we have to find a time when no one else is in the house or we could go away from the weekend and then hopefully I will relax and just let myself go.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    She hasn't had an orgasm where the earth moved and her eyes went fuzzy?

    I'm not bloody surprised. That doesn't happen in anything other than porno, I'm afraid. I suspect her friends are bullshitting her.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i think shes expecting too much
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Kermit wrote:
    She hasn't had an orgasm where the earth moved and her eyes went fuzzy?

    I'm not bloody surprised. That doesn't happen in anything other than porno, I'm afraid. I suspect her friends are bullshitting her.
    well it does, but not usually and i agree that shes expecting a bit much. She just needs to relax, and learn how to let herself go to the point of climax because shes probably so paranoid about not orgasming that its a vicious circle.
    Id suggest a vibrator.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well it does, but not usually

    Well, yeah, but you know what I mean.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Kermit wrote:
    Well, yeah, but you know what I mean.


    I understood what you meant, it is unrealistic for her to expect an orgasm where the earth moved and her eyes went fuzzy straight away, it takes time and practice. Also not everyone experiances an orgasm in the same way.
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