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age for men to loose virginity?
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I am 20 year male, almost 21 and am a virgin. I've had one serious relationship which never lead to sex and have dated after that and never really persued or gave it that much attention. Had many opportunities, but to me sex is more than just sleeping with someone to fulfill your desires..and should have right meanings with it...
Its hard to be a guy and be a virgin at almost 21..its looked down on now a days?
Should i be worried?
Its hard to be a guy and be a virgin at almost 21..its looked down on now a days?
Should i be worried?
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You have no reason to worry at all, there are more guys out there then you think who believe that sex is not just about fufilling your desires. Both me (20) and my other half(26) where virgins before we meet, as before I meet him I had never had a serious relationship and he had never meet someone he really cared about.
I must admit that I was a little surprised when he told me his was still a virgin at the age of 26, but when he explained that it was because he was waiting for that special person, I could understand where he was coming from as I too did not believe that you should just sleep with someone for the sake of it.
So as i said at the beginning you have nothing to worry about, if you find the right person they will understand.
its not a race
It didn't bother anyone else. It bothered me some at the time, but hey-ho, there are more important things to worry about. In retrospect, I shouldn't have been upset about it.
It was finally the right time, with the right person.
So don't be worried.
u shud b worried mate. come on get laid :banghead:
nd u sud b woried 2 m8. i here stoopid peeps dnt lst lng out thre.
One night stands are overrated and sex in a meaningful relationship is a lot better.
All one night stands are is an ego boost imo.
In your opinion, that is.
Two people liking each other doesn't mean good sex follows, and that's especially true for guys.
What I realised is you shouldn't need to feel pressured to have sex. As someone else said it aint that big a deal, just wait and it will come.
All depends on the individual.
For example...what kind of relationship I have with a girl alters the whole "mood", but it doesn't determine how much i enjoy it.
I was 21 before I slept with someone. Like me, you should not be worried at all - from what you have wrote you are waiting for all the right reasons. I think it only bothers people if deep down they are actually covering up deeper issues, such as fear of intimacy, or lack of self worth etc. If this is the case then waiting for the right person is exactly what you should be doing anyway. Someone who really cares about you and your feelings will make all of those issues irrelevant, rather than someone who just wants a good performance at the time.
A mate of mine (a guy) said that guys my age aren't gonna wait to have sex.. well, it proves that theory wrong, doesn't it? :thumb:
Ilora x
But there is no great moral superiority for those who waited. I went out and lost it to the first person who came along, and it was great. She happened to stay and wait and become the wife, but I wasn't madly in love with her then.
I don't think there's any superiority in waiting, and I don't think there's anything wrong with sex for the sake of sex. I've had some brilliant sex with people I couldn't really care about too much, except she had a nice arse and tits. So what?
Sex in a proper relationship is excellent, but sex with a stranger is exciting even if it's no thtat good.
I can pull women and have a one night stand anytime I want but Im still leaning about relationships.
But the friends I have now have started to have serious relationships, and they all wish they'd waited for that special someone before having sex (except for the ones who are still virgins, and that's a lot of them btw). Tbh, I think it's much better to wait for the right time - it just makes it a lot more special that way. :cool:
I'd just want to ask you not to use text talk here as it is harder to read and people here in general just don't use it. There are other reasons which you can read up on the good manners guide. -Thanks and see you around.
take it as you feel it, if you want it then do it, if not then wait. Both sides of the coin have thier drawbacks.
Well done. I guarantee you that you will stop correcting people. I would gladly correct text talk if it wasn't neverending. For every text talk eliminated, another one is born.
It makes me crazy. The new users should be forced to read the good manners guide when they register.
I am worried but what u have all sed makes me feel better, but i still want to have a boyfriend and if i feel he is worthy then to have sex with him
Thanks