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Not lasting!!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
Right...

I used to have sex ALOTT!! Was always ok, but did take viagra a bit... Well, I left uni and got a job and dont have loads of free time like I used to... A month without sex passed by and I had a drunken 1 night stand where I used a durex performa condom, lasted ages, no worries... Well, it got to the point where I didn't have sex for something like 5 months! I met with an ex and had sex but lasted about 1 min!! Was a bit worried as i took half a 100mg viagra tab..

OK, So since then another 4 months passed with no sex which is around now.. I started having sex with a friend who is cool, but even when takin viagra im only lasting a few seconds!!!

What the hell is wrong?????? In the year I have hardly had sex, I've been holding myself back so my numbers dont shoot up, but i have been doing a fair bit of oral sex with girls.. I have not been wanking for near a whole week on alot of occassions as im so busy or just dont have a chance..

Im worried as a girl i've been seeing on and off for near a year now who is the most stunning girl ever is going to be having sex with me and i know i wont be able to meet her expectations..

What is wrong? Why am I only lasting a few seconds, why does viagra not work anymore.. I need to last longer.. I've tried thinking of random things when i have ex but it dont work so surely im not getting tooo into sex..

You think I shud just keep trying and gettingback into the swing of sex with this friend and build my staying power up??

HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I really worry and have lost interest in sex!! I dont believe the viagra has messed me up, i think its a mental thing..

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I don't think Viagra affects premature ejaculation, which is what you are complaining of.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just FYI, those pills such as viagra, Cialus (spelling? I dunno I don't use the stuff) all they do is stop blood from leaving your penis. So blood goes in, but doesn't come back out. An erection is basically our penis filling up with lots of blood. Therefore, you still need stimulation to get an erection going in the first place. This is also where all those jokes about "erections lasting more than 4 hours" come from.

    Anyways, let me ask you this: in those months that you did NOT have sex, did you masturbate? You're probably releasing early simply because of being out of routine. And it's also true that the first ejaculation is always easier and quicker to achieve. For example, say you have sex and come for the first time tonight. About an hour later you have another go at it, this time it'll take a bit longer to finish.

    In the mean time just get a thicker condom, or one advertised to "desensitize" your penis. Then in the middle of sex switch to a normal condom.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Lycander wrote:
    Just FYI, those pills such as viagra, Cialus (spelling? I dunno I don't use the stuff) all they do is stop blood from leaving your penis.
    Actually, Viagra works by increasing the blood flow into the penis, not restricting the flow out - it was developed to provide symptomatic relief for sufferes of angina, but wasn't very good at it. The test subjects, however, reported an interesting side-effect.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just keeping shagging mate we all blow it too early from time to time :thumb:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    CHeers for the advice!!

    I didn't really 'do myself' in the time i wasn't having sex, so have just lost touch with it all, but i've changed that now ;)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I personally can't understand people not lasting. I have to shag for 40+ minutes at least before i even feel it, probably because I have no foreskin though...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my boyfriend suffers from that but he dont have viagra have any of your ex's ever said you were crap in bed it could be that as thats y it happens to my boyfriend all his ex's said he was crap in bed but i dont think he is i dont like sex lasting hours just enough for me to cum but every now and again i like him to make me scream which he dose when he get pissed out of hid face maybe you should see your doc about it it could be stress or something
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Goin a week without a wank won't be helpin much!! You'll b shootin ur load before foreplay gets underway!! My advice av a wank before u meet this girl in case u get lucky! :D
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Enfilade wrote:
    I personally can't understand people not lasting. I have to shag for 40+ minutes at least before i even feel it, probably because I have no foreskin though...


    don't think it's anything to do with being circumsized, tbh.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lucifer devil wrote:
    don't think it's anything to do with being circumsized, tbh.

    I'm going to agree with that one. I've never witnessed a man who wasn't cirmcumsized and they've never had problems. Personally, just reading about fucking for 40 minutes every time makes my vagina hurt.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Enfilade wrote:
    I personally can't understand people not lasting. I have to shag for 40+ minutes at least before i even feel it, probably because I have no foreskin though...
    I hope that isn't true.
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