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Faking it: Let's hear your views!
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Just wondering, because I mentioned it in a reply a minute ago. Apparantly just 30% of chicks can come through actual penetration, but 85% of us admit to faking it! I have to admit I have myself a few times, but can the bloke actually tell?? I asked my friend about it and she reckons you have to scream bloody murder, but I don't know if I've ever had it THAT wild <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
Some come people, let's have your views on the big O!
*|* Chica *|*
Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">
Some come people, let's have your views on the big O!
*|* Chica *|*
Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">
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I'd just like to add that orgasmic sounds vary from woman to woman. One cannot always tell the big O from sound alone.
I'd be quite upset if someone faked it with me, I'd probably turn to them later and say 'Quite a little actress, aren't you?' <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Love from the ChunkyMonkey
I think it is rather sad that some girls feel they have to fake it. Surely by doing so, they are saying that they are unable to achieve orgasm.
Lets be honest about it, if this happens it is basically down to the technique of the man, therefore the girl is missing out. How many men fake it - they get their jollies don't they <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
I guess what I am trying to say is - If you find you can not achieve O through sex with your partner, tell him what turns you on.
I think it a fallacy that men do not like a woman who knows what she wants in bed. At the end of the day, sex is about mutual fulfillment, ie both parties enjoying it.
Of course I fully accept that it is very easy to enjoy sex without orgasm, and some women have never experienced it.
If you are reading this, and you have never cum despite trying!!. then try something different to get yourself off. Tell your bfriend what you want, if you don't know - experiment.
As for whether the bloke can tell whether a girl is faking, I doubt it, I'm sure if I was wearing a condom, and able to conceal the obvious I could fake it, so I am damn sure women can!!!
regards derby.
But it is not necessarily the blokes fault if we don't cum. 'Necassarily' being the operative word. Wham-bam is not good. We no like, we no cum. Geddit? And in the opposite direction entirely, you can have mind-blowing even-better-than-chocolate-and-that-takes-some-beating- sex and STILL not come.
And, whatever the boffins say on the subject, every man with a pulse would like to think he is the best lay in a 5000 mile radius, so they DO take offence if they think we're not enjoying ourselves. Muy stupido, me thinks. But that's the way it goes.
*|* Chica *|*
Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">
Sex should be about both parties achieving a physical and/or emotional fulfilment.
HOWEVER as always Chica, you are spot on about the macho male. If my partner suggested I infact wasn't the greatest lover in the entire universe. I would turn over, go to sleep and sulk for the next week <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
Silly insn't it, but as you say - that's the way it goes.
Girls if you ever want to really insult and hurt a man - (not of course that all you kind girls would do that)
tell him he doesn't make you cum,
he can't drive very well
and you don't like his mum.
Oooooh bitchy, but works!!!!
As I just posted to conrad below, arrogant males almost always get what's coming to them [no pun intended.] So girls, after reciting that 'lil poem, stomp on his balls in stilettos. It really does work. I saw him limping weeks after <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
Seriously though derby, what IS it with you blokes?! 3 quarters of men don't really give a pilchard if you enjoy it, so long as u say u do. And of course, that he's the best lover in the universe <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
Honestly, if you didn't have your uses ....
*|* Chica *|*
Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">
I suppose I am a bit of a gentleman. I won't cum unless my wife has. Apart from the odd occasion that
'oh it's just too good, sorry dear, I'll try again later promise!' <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
I cannot understand why a man would just want his own pleasure rather than wanting his partner to orgasm.
You may as well have a wank if that is all you care about - it's quicker and you don't have to wipe your cock after!
So come on men (no pun intended), make a bloody effort to ensure your partner achieves orgasm. If you don't know how to, keep trying unril you get it right, remember practice makes perfect.
Oh by the way mrs derby has just been reading what I am typing - she says the following
Having started having sex at 15, she (and friends she spoke to) found although she thoroughly enjoyed sex, she didn't experience regular orgasms until she was in her mid twenties. She says she doesn't think this is uncommon.
I am probably going to have an argument now with her, since we have been together since she was 22, so 'oh my god' she's been faking, oh no my whole life is ruined <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"> <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
regards derby
- who is going to try very hard tonight to please mrs derby <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
[This message has been edited by derby county (edited 23-09-2000).]
I have to say derby, it is comforting to hear that not ALL men are selfish bastards [I'm sure you're an exception to the rule.] And as for why blokes prefer to have [selfish] sex with a girl instead of just having a wank, it has to do with that whole macho thing, screw as many girls as you can. They like wham bam. Who was it who decided men were more intelligent that women?!
*|* Chica *|*
Stay Calm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/mad.gif">
As for me - I know I've faked it in the past. But it is true, once you get with someone that you're 100% comfortable with you don't bother to fake. If you don't cum every now and then its no big deal and both of you know it. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">