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Picky with guys
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Hey, I find it really hard to find a guy that I like. Im so picky! its starting to annoy me now. But i find i have to be both physically and mentally attracted to them to be able to have some form of realtionship with them, and its rly hard to find someone that satisfys both things!
And I struggle to meet new guys. In our town there doesnt seem to be a lot of decent people around. Any Ideas?
And I struggle to meet new guys. In our town there doesnt seem to be a lot of decent people around. Any Ideas?
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and it's true what they say..don't go looking 'cause it happens when you least expect it!
Maybe if you're female you can be a little yuppie, afraid it's a bit different for the opposite sex.
Ahhh I dunno, maybe I'm gay...
Is being picky part of being frightened? Like looking for excuses not to go out with guys?
it's what i said in a post not long ago actually.
i'm picky, but sometimes its because im judging them against a past boyfriend.
Do you have any empirical data to justify that statement, or were you making a sweeping generalisation?
There are't any hot men in my uni either.
That's the problem with the realm of the sexes. Someone must be genetically perfect in order to even be considered. It's outrageous.
I'm perfect I'm 6ft 1 blonde hair blue eyes
Seig Heil!
What one woman's trash is another woman's treasure... :thumb:
Ilora x
That's true, however if someone is physically attractive I would assume that would nudge the scale.
But 'physically attractive' imeans different things to different people.
Like, say I'm going out with Bob and I think he's bloody gorgeous. But Ilora doesn't think Bob's a stunner - she thinks he's a bit of a dog-end.
So the opinions differ from person to person.
No matter what anyone says, the way someone looks DOES play a part in fancying someone. I'm not saying it comes above personality, because for me it doesn't, but there has to be at least a little bit of physical attraction for it to work.
I've seen some real mingers with pretty girls.
and of course i want to be with a guy who can be my best friend as well....like my ex, we had loads in common, made each other laugh and i thought he was pretty yummy too
but there's not much point in dating a guy who you get on with but don't really find them attractive and vice versa, the two need to go hand in hand for a good relationship.
I know i am!!!
sometimes think when i'm feelin lonely that theres been a few guys who i could have had a relationship with and wonder why i didnt. However realise that i would have just been dating them for the sake of it and wouldnt have been happy myself or made them happy. but they weren't 'right' for me, whether it be personality or looks!
Some people can just float in and out of relationships. for me though, i kind of have to know that i want it otherwise i feel awkward and worry i would be using the guy and know deep down in the long run it wouldnt be good.