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Saying no!!
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I'll try and keep this short and sweet....
Basically, and I know this doesnt sound like a problem, but I have too many men!!
I've recently come to uni and met a couple of guys that have shown real interest in me. I broke up with my first love a few weeks before coming here and made the decision that I wasn't going to get involved with anyone for a few months to allow myself to settle into uni life and get over Rob.
Well, these guys are nice guys and I get on with them really well, but they don't make me feel anything close to how Rob made me feel, and I don't want to get into anything serious. But I have such trouble telling them no! I've pulled one of them and almost ended up sleeping with the other. I don't know if it's because I'm craving what I had with Rob and am trying to replace that closeness with whatever I can find, but it's really starting to worry me. They're starting to like me a little too much for it to remain casual; one asked me the other day if I saw a future for us, and I felt awful telling him that I just wanted to take things slow and get to know him better before I thought about that.....
I need them to understand I just want to be friends, but I don't want to hurt them, and I also need to stop getting involved with people until I can stop comparing them to Rob!!
Any advice?
Basically, and I know this doesnt sound like a problem, but I have too many men!!
I've recently come to uni and met a couple of guys that have shown real interest in me. I broke up with my first love a few weeks before coming here and made the decision that I wasn't going to get involved with anyone for a few months to allow myself to settle into uni life and get over Rob.
Well, these guys are nice guys and I get on with them really well, but they don't make me feel anything close to how Rob made me feel, and I don't want to get into anything serious. But I have such trouble telling them no! I've pulled one of them and almost ended up sleeping with the other. I don't know if it's because I'm craving what I had with Rob and am trying to replace that closeness with whatever I can find, but it's really starting to worry me. They're starting to like me a little too much for it to remain casual; one asked me the other day if I saw a future for us, and I felt awful telling him that I just wanted to take things slow and get to know him better before I thought about that.....
I need them to understand I just want to be friends, but I don't want to hurt them, and I also need to stop getting involved with people until I can stop comparing them to Rob!!
Any advice?
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Just be honest with them so they know where you all stand.
You really should set them straight, have you never got into someone just to realise it didnt mean much to them at all? If not just try and imagine it. Not nice.
Plus you already realise youre not over your ex, youre just gonna confuse and hurt yourself more.