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Do you prefer a new partner to be experienced or inexperienced in the bedroom department and why.
Personally I prefer inexperienced. I find that people with little/no previous experience are far more willing to be guided and learn how to please you thus ending in far better lovers. I've had 2 guys who've known exactly how I like to be pleased, one being my ex finace and one the guy I'm with now. Both had little to no experience but turned out to be fantastic lovers.
I've also been with guys with loads of experience and they've been crap in bed, unwilling to change their normal techniques becuase obviously they were tried and tested. The fact that every womans different and they didn't work for me didn't seem to matter.
I'm not saying that every guy I've been with who was experienced was crap but I woulnd't put any above average. Also not saying that all the inexperienced guys I've been with have turned out to be brilliant lovers...just an overall comparison of both.
So on to the final question...do we all become too confident in our sexual abilities with practice and stop listening and wanting to learn to become better. Or is it just that habits are hard to break and once we have something we find works it's very difficult to change that.
Personally I prefer inexperienced. I find that people with little/no previous experience are far more willing to be guided and learn how to please you thus ending in far better lovers. I've had 2 guys who've known exactly how I like to be pleased, one being my ex finace and one the guy I'm with now. Both had little to no experience but turned out to be fantastic lovers.
I've also been with guys with loads of experience and they've been crap in bed, unwilling to change their normal techniques becuase obviously they were tried and tested. The fact that every womans different and they didn't work for me didn't seem to matter.
I'm not saying that every guy I've been with who was experienced was crap but I woulnd't put any above average. Also not saying that all the inexperienced guys I've been with have turned out to be brilliant lovers...just an overall comparison of both.
So on to the final question...do we all become too confident in our sexual abilities with practice and stop listening and wanting to learn to become better. Or is it just that habits are hard to break and once we have something we find works it's very difficult to change that.
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guys who put it about usually think they know EXACTLY what girls like, and they won't be told any different.
if they've not been about much, you can teach them exactly how you like them to do everything, and they listen. it's a beautiful thing.
But then experience is good as well. I'm going with this guy for casual sex, simply cause it's more fun. I feel that when I was with my ex, he was too shy to ask me for things and so can I. But with the experienced guy, whatever he asks, I'm always up for doing. He kinda brings it outta me. WHich makes the sex even more exciting. He does lack on the whole being patient in trying to stimualte my clit to help me orgasm. So I have to do that meself usually.
Awk I like both for different reasons.
I might be prepared to deal with inexperience as part of a long-lasting loving relationship, but otherwise it just isn't worth it.
IMHO, of course
Even if you've slept with a 1000 people, if your willing to learn and listen and so on, your vast experience obviously hasnt made you a bad lover....
But to answer the question, id probably have to side with experience as i would find it awkward and a tad uncomfy being the guiding hand. I prefer to be on an equal footing with my sexual partner...not that you actually have a choice in it i guess, but in an ideal world...etc etc
'tis true!
I don't think it takes a certain number of partners. But a certain amount of time having sex, especially in relationships where you can experiment and learn what someone wants.
A person may have had 20 one night stands but I wouldn't say they were experienced. Someone else may have had 1 sexual partner for 6 months say and they could well be. Although I wouldn't have classed myself as experienced after 18 months with my first bf, having sex day in day out....yet by the time I'd been with my next guy for 3 months I knew far more what I was doing.