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The only 'crime' this girl has committed was to have an abortion, and become pregnant again, only this time, she has kept the pregnancy. I don't think she'll need a good slap, I'm sure she'll be facing enough prejudice as it is as a young, single mother.
I've seen much worse than that - hell, we've had women come in for a termination May '05, and be back in the clinic August '05 with a different pregnancy. I still wouldn't dream of judging them or their circumstances or suggest sterilisation against their will - it would make me as anti-choice as the people who hang around outside the clinic with their placards.
het getting herself pregnent wont solve matters though so its partly her faltas well
partners who refuse to use condoms, are just as bad as women who lie that theyre on the pill cause they want a kid
In the papers she said she panned her second kid, wanted to replace it kinda thing. :rolleyes: stupid girl.
my ex best mate was planning to get pregnant once, she put a pin through a condom and was gonna sleep with this guy, he changed his mind at the last minute thankfully
Thank you very much, but I'm being quite specific in my choice of words. I've been involved in the abortion debate years before I even started my work at the clinic. I've never met an anti-choicer that wasn't one of the two things: a misogynist, or a masochist.
If you think that what *I'm* saying is a generalisation, please PM me and I'll give you some forums for you to see what they're saying about women who terminate. I won't give them the satisfaction of publicity by posting here.
I don't know, I was just in theatre that day. You have to understand that we only see them for a brief time - 6 - 8 hours at the very most if it's under 14 weeks, and that includes the consultation time. I know that she wasn't in for any post-operative checks, so I guess we'll never know.
That was my point, however, the state of mind she was in, in an emotionally abusive relationship, she was clutching at straws for any comfort. And the comfort to her was to get pregnant again.
Says the girl who not so long ago needed some help regarding the general ins and outs of the menstrual cycle? If you're going to throw stones, don't do it in a glass house.
I'd just like to remind people here that 1 in 3 British women will have an abortion in her lifetime. There's still quite a way to go before menopause, at least a couple of decades so I'd really hold off on being so liberal with the rolled eyes, because I'm sure you wouldn't like people making such judgements about you.
The reason those you describe have the websites you were going to show me (I'm not interested BTW, believe me when I say those people disgust me more than they disgust you) is that they think they have a right to interfere in other people's choices. Not everyone thinks so, and this is the generalisation I was referring to.
Well, I wasn't just referring to the ones outside the clinic, like I said, I've had a looong history of being exposed to that side (including Catholic schooling) but I've never met one to convice me otherwise of what they're like and the way they'll try to justify the things they stand for.
Huh? I haven't been abused, but I have been sexually assaulted. I don't recall making sweeping generalisations about my attacker.
I won't take you up on it
Thing is, I've come across those who call themselves pro'life' to say, "I believe it's wrong, but I wouldn't interfere with someone's choice." In that instance, they get shot down by their own side, because, in essence, they're pro-choice. But what I'd call, a pro-choice-butt (extra t not a typo). If someone is pro-life, by my definition, it means they want to restrict assess to abortion, to the point where it's criminalised. If people want to correct me by showing me someone who calls themselves pro-life but is perfectly happy to let a woman have an abortion for any reason etc, by all means, do.
As far as I'm concerned, they should consider themselves lucky that I don't spit half the venom that they deserve.
And???
People who have an abortion, regret it, fair enough. I probs would. But most people who have an abortion dont go and get up the duff the minute they can. Pointless.
Notice the "for example" part? I wasn't talking about you, not about anyone in particular.
Maybe you should.
Are you saying that someone who believes in evolution but lets creationists believe whatever they want isn't an evolutionist?
My definition is that it's someone who believes it shouldn't happen.
Perfectly happy? Surely not, by definition. Saddened but not obstructive? Surely many.
As far as I'm concerned, here and now you're only showing a discriminating personality as bad as that of those you speak against. Really unlike what I've seen of you so far.
Some do. Some people want to concieve soon after they've aborted due to foetal abnormality for instance. And because most people here wouldn't have the first idea of why they do that, it might be a good idea dare I say, a little humanitarian to hold off the judgement.
To be honest Zalbor, I really don't care what people think of me when I'm describing those who are pro-'life' whether they are horrid sweeping generalisations or not. Hell, I may even come across as a nasty bitch when I discuss what I really think about those people. It really doesn't bother me. As long as women have safe, legal access to abortion, I don't mind what light I'm seen in concerning that. You know what they mean when they say, 'scratch a liberal...'
I would be interested to hear about your experiences however.
Sorry, I was referring to Briony in that instance.
I'm saying theres nothing wrong with an abortion, and I'm not saying you said I said there was, I've had a 'scare' before and thought of abortion. Me, personally think having an abortion then getting pregnant straight away is just pointless, but I aint been there so I dont no.
I think the girls mum should of supported her more.
BTW, I dont think this post has anything to do with the one I posted about the cycle, fair enough I didnt know the ins and outs, big deal, some other girls dont. You wouldnt like it if I dragged one of your posts up in a completely different post.......
As for not caring what people think of you, I bet the ones outside your work don't either. Think on that. And what do you mean by "your experiences"? I was talking about myself. If you want my views, I'd be happy to discuss -as long as you didn't dismiss them right away. As I believe, "You can neither agree nor disagree with someone if you don't understand why they believe they're right."
Some other time though, I'm going to bed.
Well yes, I think there's a lot to be said about a mummy who runs to the papers.
Well, if I accused someone of crap driving for instance, and mentioned in another post that I had 3 points put on my license then I'd pretty much get what I deserved. My point was I don't think it's fair to tar and feather this girl when we're all in the process of learning about ourselves and still looking for education on certain matters. Like I said, I think this girl is going to suffer a lot more prejudice than what's said on an internet message board.
You said, "I think you should" when I said I wouldn't take you up on what you said about how those people disgust you a lot more than they do me.
I have thought about it. And then thought nothing more. C'est la vie.
More than likely she'll drop out of school aswell. There are 2 girls in my year at school, both 15 who are pregnant. One would have had hers by now i think. And i don't think they'll come back.
Probably because you have no idea of what it's like to walk in her shoes? And only seen what's reported in news stories? Newspapers are there to sell papers. Think about it. And the HIV needle thing is an urban legend, have a look around in Snopes.
So nice that some people are so obviously Paragons of Virtue and so magnanimous that they're in a position to judge and criticise this girl, equally spilling out their fare share of schadenfreude. The real kind of attitude we need on a website like this, and then *I'm* the one told not to close my mind :yeees:
Anyway I don't want to get involved in the whole pro life pro choice whatever as that wasn't what i was replying for BUt can I say I think its great to have the informtaion form someone who works at a clinic as the info given may actually hep someone reading to make a choice one way or the other-I mean that its nice to hear from someone who actually DOES know what goes on