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Why does she lie?
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I think my best mate is a liar, user and she certainly lets me down!
We have been friends for quite some time however I have always wondered about whether or not she tells the truth or is being fully honest with me.
She is a fab friend we get on really really well, however she has been known to exagerate things or to completely make them up.
The other night I had a phone call at 4 in the morning - she left a voicemail saying I need you quick I am coughing up blood, i think i am going to die as a first aider you are my only hope please help, knowing her from the past she sounded drunk so i left it i had work very early the next morning.
anyway next day i was slightly concerned about her so text to ask if she was ok and that in future if she really needed help it was best to call for an ambulance or get her sister to help as i had work and could not get there.
anyway got a text back saying that she was drunk lost her phone and it was not her who rang me (i know however that it was)
before she really relied on me to go out with her now she has another mate and they go out every night, which while i do not mind she is starting to lie a lot more saying i cant go out am ill, or babysitting, or have college and know she is lying.
we booked a holiday to brussels today she told me she cannot go as she is going to bournemouth for that weekend and just remembered.
I am not sure i can be bothered with the lies, the using or her letting me down but i certainly do not want to lose a good friend!
We have been friends for quite some time however I have always wondered about whether or not she tells the truth or is being fully honest with me.
She is a fab friend we get on really really well, however she has been known to exagerate things or to completely make them up.
The other night I had a phone call at 4 in the morning - she left a voicemail saying I need you quick I am coughing up blood, i think i am going to die as a first aider you are my only hope please help, knowing her from the past she sounded drunk so i left it i had work very early the next morning.
anyway next day i was slightly concerned about her so text to ask if she was ok and that in future if she really needed help it was best to call for an ambulance or get her sister to help as i had work and could not get there.
anyway got a text back saying that she was drunk lost her phone and it was not her who rang me (i know however that it was)
before she really relied on me to go out with her now she has another mate and they go out every night, which while i do not mind she is starting to lie a lot more saying i cant go out am ill, or babysitting, or have college and know she is lying.
we booked a holiday to brussels today she told me she cannot go as she is going to bournemouth for that weekend and just remembered.
I am not sure i can be bothered with the lies, the using or her letting me down but i certainly do not want to lose a good friend!
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To be quite honest i struggle to make friends she is one of the only decent mates i have
the only issues are her lying but like you say i maybe am better off without this
she really let me down with the holiday and I am not sure i can trust that!
its a shame really
I don't think she is a good friend. I don't think you shoudl cut her out of your life completely but just take a step back now you can see her for who she really is. I had a "best friend" who was a complete pathological liar/exaggerater with absolutely no reason to be, and with that lack of morality I had to cut her out of my life as I felt that there would come a time when she would utterly betray me and I could not risk that
Very true. And some people do it for attention, don't they?