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What's the big deal?
BillieTheBot
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(Before anyone asks, this isn't anything to do with the 'Peer pressure' thread I posted a few months ago)
Ok, I have a few friends who have rather dirty minds and they'll try and embarrass me by just talking about sex and generally being rude all the time. Today, the subject of virginity was mentioned and they were both going on about like losing it was a big deal and saying how they'd lost it when they were young (and I mean young...) But what really is the big deal about losing your virginity?
Ok, I have a few friends who have rather dirty minds and they'll try and embarrass me by just talking about sex and generally being rude all the time. Today, the subject of virginity was mentioned and they were both going on about like losing it was a big deal and saying how they'd lost it when they were young (and I mean young...) But what really is the big deal about losing your virginity?
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Not yet I haven't...
totally agree. although i dunno
i dnt think i know anyone that lost their virginity nicely and in the perfect situation. but then as my mate says with each new person its like losing your virginity all over again. you get that same special feeling.
on the note of rules of attraction, lauren obviously wasnt that bothered about it or she would have not got in that position in the first place, without ruining the film (no i am not condoning what happened after!!)
She did pass out yknow..
Oh bugger just ruined it..Uhh..NOT REALLY.
People with a comfortable, happy sex life generally feel no need to talk about it all the time.
I didn't feel the need to discuss, make it an issue to anyone else and the such cause I felt that crushed the intimacy for me.
I've known one ex, who incidently I didn't have sex with, to brag of his experience and to push the matter a hell of a lot more...to discover later that he was a virgin who wasn't 'wise-in-the-ways'...very big turn off tbh...I'd rather my bf's approach of confessing his intact virginity cause then, we did make a real big deal of it, and it was worth it.
I've found the braggers to be liars in pretty much every case I've strayed upon - which just makes them look pretty sad. Or I've found braggers to just totally overlook the other parts of the relationship...and tbh, when my private sex life was mentioned by my bf to a friend, I found it quite embarrassing in a way to have the intimacy...given away so easily.
I think it depends on what your view of it is. When I got into my first relationship at 16, sex was a massive deal for me. I don't think you should be 'embarassed' into it, because your friends have.
As other people have said, your first time ultimately will and can affect future relationships and your attitude to sex. Some people have a very carefree attitude, which although I'm not saying is wrong, is sometimes not sensible. My first experience was extremely emotive, with someone I considered myself to be in love with and cared a lot for. This has influenced the way in which I now see sex, and I find it extremely difficult to 'do' sex without attachment or emotions.
It differs for everyone, but I don't think you should play down losing your virginity, just realise that it doesnt matter, what age you are and how many people etc. Its a personal choice .
Hope this helps.
:yes:
I lost it with just some girl I knew on the fling...leading to me basically being sex crazy with girls lol!
I reckon if I'd lost it with someone i really loved and cared about..it would be a little bit more sentimental in relationships :S
Not that im suggesting sex isn't sentimental in a relationship..just the degree of it ..*lmao..dug myself a hole..im just gna stop typing*
Now call me naïve, but how many different ways are there to lose it?
Anyways, that's just my 2 cents.
b4 losing my virginity i didn't realize its value.I'm 16 and i now realize how valuable a woman's virginity is.Its like being a virgin adds points to u. It adds a special moment to ur life.Everytime u look at ur husband u remember ur first time.I don't regret losing mine.My boyfriend and i r still together.He was really gentle and considered my feelings all through