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First time after a being in a relationship...
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I recently finished with my boyfriend after nearly 2 yrs together, and I know I'm definitely not ready to be with someone else yet on any level, but it is fairly inevitable that there will be someone else one day (God I hope so at least!)
We split for lots of reasons but one being I felt I hadn't experimented enough with other people, both in terms of being in a relationship and in terms of sex (he was the first and only person I have slept with and my only serious relationship).
I was just wondering how people found it, pulling someone for the first time after breaking up, or sleeping with their "2nd person" or even just the first person after coming out of a relationship?
I'm terrified of being on the pull, it seems so long ago since I last went out and didn't just give evil looks to any bloke who looked at me!
Did you feel you wanted to sleep with someone else and get it out of the way or did you wait until a new relationship came along?
Did you go mad and pull loads of people just because you could or was it all too much of a shock?
I just don't really know where I will go from here!
Ta :thumb:
We split for lots of reasons but one being I felt I hadn't experimented enough with other people, both in terms of being in a relationship and in terms of sex (he was the first and only person I have slept with and my only serious relationship).
I was just wondering how people found it, pulling someone for the first time after breaking up, or sleeping with their "2nd person" or even just the first person after coming out of a relationship?
I'm terrified of being on the pull, it seems so long ago since I last went out and didn't just give evil looks to any bloke who looked at me!
Did you feel you wanted to sleep with someone else and get it out of the way or did you wait until a new relationship came along?
Did you go mad and pull loads of people just because you could or was it all too much of a shock?
I just don't really know where I will go from here!
Ta :thumb:
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For your own dignity and self respect I would urge anyone just out of a long term relationship to take it easy and not to go crazy when on a night out.
Just hurts you in the long run. Take your time and ease yourself back into dating would be my advice
I did a similar thing when I came out of my first proper relationship, slept with lots and lots of people in a short space of time, but this time I dont think ill be doing that.
Just go with the flow, I guess. I was with my bf for like just over a year and we broke it off and for six months I was "free". I just went out and dated, and did what I felt was right for me. Some people go mad and have loads of sexual relationships, and others have the odd one and date loads. Just do what you feel is right. U may meet someone and find you are sexually attracted to them and want to sleep with them. Equally, you may meet someone and decide you just want to go out and date, so its whatever you feel really.
I dno what I did..avoided her at all costs really! I went on the pull now and again..pulling people didn't ease the pain..only made it harder for me..
bout 2 months after breaking up I saw her in the pub I was in..she came over started speaking to me about the person that she liked and stuff and pulled him right infront of me..
I dragged her out of the pub, shouted abuse at her for 5-10 minutes..i tried explaining i wasn't ready to be mates on that sorta level ( talking bout relationships ) and she went crazy at me..and it all kinda turned on her as she got verbal abuse not just from me but from her mates aswell as they said it was out of order..she now basically has no friends and no boys that like her..but meh
The best thing to do is wait until you're ready to pull..go out with your mates and just see what happens ! Good luck!
Jez