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Wierd guy
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I went on a date a few days ago, and the guy seemed really nice. We chatted about loadsa stuff, and we got on well. But there is one prob: I think he is obsessed with sex. My ex didn't seem to be this mad about it, but the new guy keeps mithering me all the time for it. He says he doesn't normally wait for girls.
Is this normal, are a lot of guys like this??
Is this normal, are a lot of guys like this??
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i think it'll show you for certain how much he really likes u if he takes the easy option and finds it somewhere else.
He's a slut. He'll probably take what he wants and you'll never see him again.
trust your instincts.
tell him to f off.
If he seems obsessed by it, and thats a bit of a worry before you even start, then its not good news tbh.
Id give him a wide berth.
I wouldnt jump to conclusions that he's just after a shag althrough I wouldnt rule it out, I would say most likly he wants some kind of a not too serious relationship, but a relationship none the less.
Its very difficult (for a man) not to think about sex or to try especialy if youve been on more than one date.
I think its very difficult for SOME men. Those men should go for likeminded women, not women who are freaked out by it or who are after something more than that.
And if you want to go shopping you should wait till youve saved up before buying that shirt/dress/shoes you realy want,
If you think you should lose a bit of wait then you shouldnt take a chocklate bar when offered,
Etc,,etc,,etc,,
But its not so easy is it, one might say its almost human to be impatient
yes but if he had any respect for her, he wouldn't pressurise her for sex. he wouldn't say 'i don't wait around for girls'. he wants a shag, end of. and there's no way of dressing it up to make him look good!
I said 1stly not to think about it, thats difficult dont deny it,
and 2ndly I said its difficult not to try, I dont mean hassel endlessly but make a polite attempt,"you like me to walk you home ?" then try a bit of snogging.
I sence a bit of hypocracy regarding this, if a women wants sex and the man tries very good, alls happy.
if she dosnt want sex and the man tries (I mean a gentel attempt not scarey) then he's to be watched and not trusted.
When a couple has sex for the first time its almost always the man who makes the first attempt, youd rather he never tried or what ?
Take no for an answer, well of course Im not arguing that he shouldnt.
theres degrees and it depends on what happening in this specific case.
I disagree entirely, when im out on a date, im out with a person I like and want to get to know better. I want to know what she does for a living, what hobbies she has, where would she like to go on holiday / where has she been etc
Im NOT out with my next conquest, this seems to lack respect imho
Or have I misread what you said ?
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like mollow said, firts dates should be about getting to know eachother. unless that is, he wants to get his leg over. i;m not saying all lads are like it, but this one is clearly a tart.
If your going on more than one date then the thought will cross your mind,
personally youd know in most cases if she wanted it soon or didnt,
dont tell me youd never think of it.
Its disrespectfull to never think of a women as anything more than a sex object, but trying to have sex with one dosnt necessarly mean that.
What do you do if your on a 2nd date or 3rd date and the girl indicates she'd like to have sex what would you say, "no im not interested in that"
you're missing the point here.
if you say to someone on/after your first date that when it comes to sex you don't wait around..then you're clearly not wanting a relationship. he has toldh er he wants to be in a relationship with her so he can have her way with her. stop being so naive.
He really did seem creepy, all he wanted was a shag and thats it. Well I'm not a bloody prostitute!! Plus, I'm letting no creepy wierdos around my daughter...only normal guys! x