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should i let him?

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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I have been going out with my boyfriend for around 1 month and 1/2 im really fond of him...we havnt done anything yet and every time i go to kiss him (snog) he stops and sais he is a bit sceptical that he is scared!

The thing is...he wants to do things with me! we both agreed that we are not ready for sex but her wants to do other stuff with me. like licking me out! i dunno what to say what does it feel like???

He wont even snog me why is he so confident about the forplay? the thing is...i am really self consious about my body...if i did anything with him...it would have to be in the dark...should i let him???

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi pinkitten..
    You don't say what age u both are but if this guy gets wierd about kissing you then I think you should hold off on going any further till you are both comfortable with kissing. Is it just in public he doesn't wanna snog cos maybe hes just shy? Anyway, if u have the slightest doubt about letting him do anything then u arent ready 4 the next step so hold off 4 a bit! If the guy is worth it then it'll be better 4 u both. Good Luck!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hi ther,
    by the sounds of it neither are you are ready to take the step to foreplay yet. If he is having trouble just kissing you I fail to see how he has the confidence to do more... wierd. Also your confidencer is quite low, you mentioned it having to be in the dark. So I have a feeling you would be too nervous at the moment to get full pleasure from any foreplay.

    My advice would be to prgress on to the kissing first and see how it goes. As for the being licked out I've heard from girls that if done properly it can be better than having sex.
    its not illegal til u get caught <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/mica/monkbum.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why do people think theres some rigid constrained order to the things that can progress in a relationship. I tend to be rather slow to progress on an emotional level, but have no problems fulfilling my partners sexual requirements as I give time for the emotins to develop. I feel kissing is much more romantic than a lot of the other physical activites, and prefer to wait until we are in love before this occurs.

    Fucking however is another story. I find if I don't fuck these chicks in the mean time, they tend to go elsewhere to satisfy their sexual needs. So as it turns out, I often engage in some of these more sexual activities before moving on to the kissing stage.

    Once I explain this, most women are usually pretty understanding.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sorry if I sound judgemental, cos I know I don't know you or your boyfriend, but from what you've said he does sound a bit dodgy. It sounds like he's eager to move on without any emotional attachment. Some girls like that, I know, but I don't think you're one of those girls. Has he done any of the 'other stuff' before? Cos I went out with a guy once who hadn't done anything more than kissing, and he was eager to push things further too, mainly just so he could say he'd done it, I realise now.

    If you're not happy about it, don't let him do it. A month and a half isn't a long time, in the grand scheme of things, so if he likes you enough he should be prepared to wait. And if he isn't, he's not worth it!

    Love 'n' snuggles,

    Mags
    xx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    he isnt really pushy or anything, i just really like him and wanna keep him happy...i agree that kissing is a very imtimate thing and though i feel i can kiss him intimately maybe he doesnt! i just dont see how he would wanna lick me out and stuff if he doent even wanna kiss me! he is defo not shy!!!! but he is a bit distant, you know, he doesnt like holding hands and stuff!!! i just dunno what im doing wrong! luv p!nk xXx
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by pinkitten:
    he isnt really pushy or anything, i just really like him and wanna keep him happy


    this isn't a reason!! Everyone wants to keep their geezer happy but i wouldn't not till you gett he kissing bit perfected!.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I DONT THINK U SAID HOW OLD U R. HOWEVER, IF U AINT HAVIN SEX THAT DONT MATTER. DONT LET URE GUY PRESSURE U IN2 ANYTHIN HONEY, U WIL KNOW WEN DA TIME IS RITE 4 U 2 BGIN BEIN INTIMATE WIV A BOY. THERE IS NO WAY DAT DIS GUY WIL B CONFIDENT WEN IT ACTUALLY COMES DOWN TO IT IF HE CANT EVEN GET UP DA COURAGE 2 SNOG U YET. AS FOR THE WAY URE BODY LOOKS, IT DONT MATTER! URE GOIN OUT WIV DIS BOY BCOS HE LIKES DA WAY U LOOK! HES NOT GONNA CHANGE HIS MIND JUST COS HES SEEIN U NAKED! I SUGGEST DAT U SIT DOWN AND HAV A CHAT WIV URE LAD. FIND OUT JUST WOT IT IS THE PAIR OF U WANT AND THEN IF U AGREE DAT URE BOTH SURE THEN GO 4 IT, BUT ONLY THEN. B SMART BOUT IT. BOBBI. XXXXX
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    BOBBI - coule you please not use txt spk, and CAPS, as a combination it makes your messages really hard to read. :-)

    PINKITTEN - I think you need to be sure if you, and your boyfriends ready for the 'next step' if you are enjoy, and be careful!!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sorry, i only realised wen i had actually posted my reply that id done the whole damn thing in CAPS. oops! as for txt speak, i find it kinda hard 2 stop, but i'll try. ok? sorry for any inconvienience i caused.

    pinkitten-hows things? did you get ne further? let us know how things are going for u ok?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    er.... sorry to point out the obvious:

    dont hold ur hand
    dont kiss u

    wants sex

    u say ud "do anyfin for him"...he know this?

    make sure ur not bein used, first advice. if the kid cnt kiss u, he sure as hell aint ready to start putting his tongue in the holiest of holies. if he's worried bout technique kissin, why he wanna start licking round ur pussy?

    eitha ur boyfriend is one weird fuck, or is usin ya. make sure eitha aint true b4 doing anything
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    if only i cud find a fella who only wanted to give me lick outs the whole time. i live for the things. sisqo says it best..."how many licks does it take till you get to the centre of it" im gonna find me a fella "with a big ass dick and a hurricane tongue" Happy fuckin days!

    ah no but seriously, if u feel ur ready for wat he wants go 4 it, but think it through. It seems a bit wierd that he doesnt want to kiss. dont do summit ur gonna regret! xx

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    masterdevilish is totaly right !! the man(i'm guessing,probably a BOY)seems weird as fuck!!

    ASHO. i think i can help u out there. sounds like me and u need 2 get it on baby ! XXX <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;
    as long as theres dirty freaky monkey sex, the worlds a great place !
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Player number 1; the more I read the less I like.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by number 1 player:
    ASHO. i think i can help u out there. sounds like me and u need 2 get it on baby ! XXX

    F**K OFF no.1 i'm the site perv

    I agree with Kirk ...i feel so dirty now!

    All evil needs to thrive is for good men to sit back and do nothing
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah wat is with you man a one track fuckin mind or wat. I'm guess your just an overactive 12 year old. damn that puberty ehh

    anyway dump the sick little freak he wants to kiss the wrong lips(bad joke i know) ask him wat his problem is!!!! :P
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    WAIT!!!!!!!!wait untill ur both sure ,he cant be too into foreplay if he wont even snog u!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    you now have some serious competition marmite.
    kirk, beam the fuck up!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    PINK KITTEN - Hey girl, it shouldn't be a case of LETTING him do anything - you should be deciding what you wanna be doing okay? So when you get to feeling that you'd really like him to do more then you go and ask/persude him to do it for you. How old is this kid anyway? I mean- do you think there's any chance that he's going to know what he's doing down there? If he just whats to experiment or be able to boast to his mates then forget it and make him wait!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    pinkitten let us know how thingz are going 4 u. did everything work out? i hope ure ok? i also hope u didnt rush into anything. u shouldnt do anything until ure ready. i know i said this before but u should always be happy with wat u do with YOUR life. clue: its YOUR life! good luck babe
    xxxx
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