in the park?

Former Member · October 2001

im 14 + my b/f is 15 ive had sex once b4 in a forest put it was really uncomfortable + very painful (altho it did turn me on) now my current b/f wants 2 have sex in a park i dnt know wot 2 do will it jus b uncomfortable? so should i or should i not. PLS HELP IM SOOOO STRESSED.

Former Member · October 2001

Me and my ex once got a bit carried away in our local park, unfortunately just as things were getting very steamy, some woman through a ball at us (not sure whether she meant to hit us or if she was just throwing it for her dog!) Well it really put us off although we did see the funny side of it later! So my advice would be find a very secluded spot if you're tempted.

Former Member · October 2001

Why are you having sex anywhere at 14? Thats so young!
I prefer sex somewhere warm like a beach with the waves rather than a forest with weirdos walking their dogs! :>

Former Member · October 2001

If you're stressed about it, my guess is that you don't really want to do it. So I'd say don't do it. If your boyfriend is a decent bloke who cares about you, he will understand.

Oh and read this: http://www.thesite.org/sex/general_sex/risky_sex.html

Former Member · October 2001

take a blanket, watch out for sticks and stones. You probably do want to get caught, cos thats always a turn on, but you also don't want crowds of people, so choose someplace remote, but not too remote.

Have fun

Former Member · October 2001

Originally posted by kza:
take a blanket, watch out for sticks and stones.

i think u're takin the mick... or you're being sarcastic... but are you really serious?

Former Member · October 2001

Originally posted by kza:
take a blanket, watch out for sticks and stones.

gettin bruised is no fun, so walk prepared, but second thoughts are often useful, if you're uncomfortable with it, don't do it, its probably a warning....

Former Member · October 2001

If your worried /uncomfortable with it and or being caught then there is an up and down side to it.

On the down you are probably going to feel really uncomfortable and the sex will not be very good as you will be nervous.

on the up the opposite could be true - the nerves could guive an adrenaline buzz and make the sex excellent <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> the thrill of doin g it and hopewfully not getting caught!

but basically depends ho uncomfoirtable or worried you are about it - whatever happens don't be forced in to anything you dont want to do yourself

its not illegal til u get caught <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/mica/monkbum.gif">

Former Member · October 2001

Originally posted by fJear M3:
If your worried /uncomfortable with it and or being caught then there is an up and down side to it.

On the down you are probably going to feel really uncomfortable and the sex will not be very good as you will be nervous.

on the up the opposite could be true - the nerves could guive an adrenaline buzz and make the sex excellent <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> the thrill of doin g it and hopewfully not getting caught!

but basically depends ho uncomfoirtable or worried you are about it - whatever happens don't be forced in to anything you dont want to do yourself

its not that im worried of getting caught cos not many ppl walk there dogs at 11:00 + i know that we wont b out in the open i really want 2 but i dunno wheather i should wait cos weve only bn going out 4 3weeks + ill b in a PARK not very nice. I was jus wondering if u think i would get more pleasure or more dirty.

Former Member · October 2001

You're 14? My little sister's nearly that age, and she only just started her periods. Sorry to sound granny-ish (I'm only 16 myself) but the thought of my sister shagging her boyfriend of 3 weeks in a park just makes me want to throw up.

But anyway, I'll assume you're a lot more mature than my sister (she's a bit behind the times). I agree with what's been said here, if you're not comfortable with it then don't do it. Especially as you've only been with him 3 weeks (I hope I got that part right). Leave it for a while, at least, until you're happier about doing it.

Mags
xx

Former Member · October 2001

I see what your getting at. well will it be your first time? if swo i suppose a park is not the best place to remember back as being your first time.

If your both ready it doesnt matter how long / short a time its been but don't rush it.

Former Member · October 2001

I thought she said it wasn't her first time. But yes I agree with that - my first time was outside (it was freezing!) and while it was very romantic, it sounds like such a sleazey thing to do which means I didn't tell my friends about it for ages afterwards.

Mags
xx

Former Member · October 2001

To B honest its up 2 U where U hav sex. Theres no rite or wrong place 2 lose your virginity, or 2 just hav sex but I think at 14 URe a bit young, not 2 mention da fact dat its illegal, as U and your boyf R both minors (underage) and if URe caught there could B serious trouble for da 2 of U. However, its your choice. If U wanna hav sex in a park, then u can. If it was uncomfortable last time, dont let it put u off. Evry time is diffrent. Giv it a try. If URe unsure than tlk 2 your boyf and explain your concerns. If both of U R mature enuff 2 hav sex then he wil surely understand your concerns. Good luck, love bobbi. XXXX

Former Member · October 2001

thanxs 4 all ur help i did talk wiv my b/f and he gave me a choice wheather i wanted 2 wait or 2 jus enjoy the moment and was really nice in the end we went ahead + it was really nice + cant wait 2 do it again (luckly no1 cought us)

Former Member · November 2001

I lost my virginity in a park. and it was horrible, becuase not only did he not get it in properly, (casuing a large amount of pain) but he came after about 30 secsonds. which ruined it as well. the fact that it started raining after, was proving a point. SEX AND PARKS don't mixed. lol..considering thats the only place we can go, we do it there alot. but my first was horrible. and we've been caught twice

Former Member · November 2001

i jus wanted 2 ask how old r u + how old were u wen u lost ur virginity?

Former Member · November 2001

<sigh>

look, it shows ur lack of brains cuz u even brought this up...

sex is an act of love, not a pre-planned date in the fucking park. it's not like "lets go to the park and have sex". it's not even "lets to the park for a walk and maybe i can get sex".

it should be one day u find yourselves out, walking home from a party, kissin, cuddling, walk through the park, sit on a bench, get close, have sex, love it and fall asleep in each others arms

obviously thats a fairy tale, but sex shouldn't be planned- what's special about it then?

hope u c my point

have sex wherever but if ur b/f is sayin stuff like that he's using u for sex and doesn't want a relationship

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Former Member · November 2001

have sex wherever but if ur b/f is sayin stuff like that he's using u for sex and doesn't want a relationship

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well thanxs talk bout boost my confidence

Former Member · November 2001

Originally posted by YoungFreeLife:
I lost my virginity in a park. and it was horrible, becuase not only did he not get it in properly, (casuing a large amount of pain) but he came after about 30 secsonds. which ruined it as well.

same here!! he couldnt get in me properly coz we were all awkward & that tryin not 2 get all dirty!!... it did ruin it...only do it there if ur 100% u cant find newhere else!!
gd luck xxx

Nobody's perfect til u fall in love with them!

in the park?

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