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Fear of rejection
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I just nicked this idea off an another post here.
Fear of rejection - how to get around it? Especially as I've got rejected every time i made my emotions clear to a girl. Now I think that every time I tell someone I fancy them, I'll be rejected. And each time I got rejected, I could hear my ego and self confidence collapse. :crying:
Fear of rejection - how to get around it? Especially as I've got rejected every time i made my emotions clear to a girl. Now I think that every time I tell someone I fancy them, I'll be rejected. And each time I got rejected, I could hear my ego and self confidence collapse. :crying:
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Clearly. :yeees:
Only kidding.
I'd be interested to see what people have to say about this too, actually.
you keep trying. you need to face your fear.
I don't look that bad, and I have just average social skills. But it seems that I just don't have the talent to have that kind of relationships with girls :S
I know that one day, there will be a gal that I'll like and be liked back, but it would be nice if that happened some time soon.
Oh, and the only times i tell someone I fancy them, it's when I really really do. Like, after I've thought a bit about it, and when the feelings get really strong.
ETA: Sadly, it can be a sort of an enchanted circle sometimes...
I hope that makes any sense, I am very tired as I'm writing this
I broke up with someone a month or so ago but I can say whilst I was with this girl, it would rank among the best periods of my life...I got to travel to different countries, learn about cultural differences, spend a lot of time sharing interests with someone I actually loved (and that is the first time I have experienced such an emotion for real)...I am gonna try and bear this in mind when I get out on the pull again (that is, when my broken heart is completely mended - and I am hoping it nearly is )
That was a nice response. I guess that the best feeling in the world is being with someone you love. Too bad I haven't fully experienced that yet
I try not to lose hope. However, I'm not the person who goes out on the pull. I'd rather meet the person in some everyday situation, get to know her better, and when i start having feelings for her, that's the real thing. I just can't fall in love while on the pull, it's not the same thing.
unfortunately, she meant just as freinds, and I got completely the wrong end of the stick crushed...? me..?
very
ah well, life goes on, in fact I met a beautiful blonde girl at a party of a freind of a freind, and we're still together 3 years later :thumb:
so the moral of this story is - it is inevitable that you will get crushed, but in the end it will pay off! :yes:
unfrotunately, getting to the point of telling said girl you want to go out with them is just as hard
well the person I met whilst out 'on the pull' lives in my uni halls, so I knew her before hand...bumping into her whilst in a club seemed to be the easiest way