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Am i being weird?
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Last night, me and my bf were talking, and some girl signed in on msn. I asked him who it was and he told me, its some girl he used to go to college with. So fair enough i thought. He said she wants to meet me, ok fair enough again. Then he went on to say that his ex tried to hit her once because he was holding her hand (dont know why he had to bring this up) so i just laughed, then i asked if he'd been with her, and his response was "sort of".. sort of? well i think i know what that means, basically he had sex with her. I then thought, i dont wana meet her.
Anyway.. It got me thinking and then i felt really uncomfortable around him, like jealous, and a bit weird. Knowing that he's slept with other girls really bothers me, i dont know why though?
Does it bother anyone else when you know wether your partner has slept with anyone else? or am i just being a bit of a jealous cow?
Anyway.. It got me thinking and then i felt really uncomfortable around him, like jealous, and a bit weird. Knowing that he's slept with other girls really bothers me, i dont know why though?
Does it bother anyone else when you know wether your partner has slept with anyone else? or am i just being a bit of a jealous cow?
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and I'm sure he'll understand this fact too. I'm glad to see you're not the kind of person that would get super jealous of just some female freind though, as that would be OTT. However, knowing it's someone who he's slept with, it's very natural to be jealous :yes:
i get jealous (internally) and i can understand you not wanting to meet her. hopefully he will understand why you wouldn't want to, if he doesnt then maybe ask him if he would be happy if it was one of your exes (if you have any of course!)?
If it was one of my ex's all hell would break loose.
Exactly. And he is with you. And is happy with you. Remember, there is a reason the girl(s) is/are his ex(es).
I really think it all boils down to how you feel about yourself at the time, how much youve got to lose, and how well you really know your partner.
At the end of the day, your feelings are real, and you dont have to meet her if you dont want to, but it sounds as though hes being pretty honest about it all if you ask me.
As long as you don't yell and shout at him and tell him he can't meet up with her, then you are perfectly justified. TBH if you admit you are slightly jelous but that you trust him and are perfectly ok with him meeting her, he will think youre the greatest thing since sliced bread. Shows you care and still find him attractive.
If I didn't get slightly jelous about ex's i'd be worried that i didn't feel the same about him anymore.
glad to hear it. :yes:
But wheres that going to get you?
Id chill out and just make sure you have nothing to be jealous of