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the common debate: looks and personality
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as a guy myself .. i admit that im shallow.. but i can only see girls inside the little qualms of my highschool.. so its limited.. so here it goes
i would always try to portray a girl that i would like.. and try to immitate her attritubtes... as weird as it sounds... i think it has a common touch.. like being outgoing... smile....looks...respectful.... ambitious.. pretty similar stuff that girls look for in a guy and guy looks for in a gal.. cept for a few speicifcs like athletics and some other stuff.
Now im sry if my passage only asks what girls want in a guy... im sry.. ill make another opposite thread...
im 15.. and ive been polishing my attributes.. ive been modeling myself towards outgoing..respectful..athletic...ambitious...open-minded...humourous but as i make observations around my school.. i think that looks can generally sometimes be the most important thing...
because the idea of generalization is too good to pass up.. i mean when u look at sum1 who is good-looking u would assume that their personality would be as great and that all u want in a guy is already tagged on him just by looking at his face.. like a gal checking out a good-looking guy.. the gal assumes that he is out-going.. sincere..respectful.. ambitious.. humourous and that smile would make the gal think hes a god.. and plus if the guy has like a dufflebug or something that represents his athletic accomplishments walking around school also expresses his athleticness thru his looks.. and flip-flops shows his openmindess.
now really looks > personality.. not? im not talking bout marriages and stuff just basic dating and high school relationships that usually never surpasses 2 years.
extra stuff: do girls mind if a guy swears or cusses? im a 15 yr old 6"2 and not alot of girls can come close to the height.. am i too tall?
i would always try to portray a girl that i would like.. and try to immitate her attritubtes... as weird as it sounds... i think it has a common touch.. like being outgoing... smile....looks...respectful.... ambitious.. pretty similar stuff that girls look for in a guy and guy looks for in a gal.. cept for a few speicifcs like athletics and some other stuff.
Now im sry if my passage only asks what girls want in a guy... im sry.. ill make another opposite thread...
im 15.. and ive been polishing my attributes.. ive been modeling myself towards outgoing..respectful..athletic...ambitious...open-minded...humourous but as i make observations around my school.. i think that looks can generally sometimes be the most important thing...
because the idea of generalization is too good to pass up.. i mean when u look at sum1 who is good-looking u would assume that their personality would be as great and that all u want in a guy is already tagged on him just by looking at his face.. like a gal checking out a good-looking guy.. the gal assumes that he is out-going.. sincere..respectful.. ambitious.. humourous and that smile would make the gal think hes a god.. and plus if the guy has like a dufflebug or something that represents his athletic accomplishments walking around school also expresses his athleticness thru his looks.. and flip-flops shows his openmindess.
now really looks > personality.. not? im not talking bout marriages and stuff just basic dating and high school relationships that usually never surpasses 2 years.
extra stuff: do girls mind if a guy swears or cusses? im a 15 yr old 6"2 and not alot of girls can come close to the height.. am i too tall?
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^ adding to that plus if a guy has good looks.. i compare myself to lesser attractive guys.. girls treat me nicer.. its like its easier for a more attractive guy to communicate and get where he wants with a girl because she also wants to meet him and becomes more open..
Just a thought...
I personally go for personailty. I think boys and girls are different because(no offence) boys are more shallow and tend to go for looks rather than personailty. Sorry but this is my experience.
I know that if a person has a great personality e.g. can make me laugh then i would be more likely to fancy them than the jock with good looks.
luv lou
true dat.... but my point is... looks > personality... because ppl subconsciously label a personality to a person just based on their face value.. like we were taught to do so from those disney movies where the ugly ones are bad and the good ones are handsome and beautiful
well thats just connotations and simply not true...i'm pretty good with first impressions...i mean you'll regularly see tall,blonde fit birds with big tits and you just know by the look of them they're stuck up bimbos...
i'd be more inclined to personality than looks cos in a relationship thats the thing that matters most in the long run...however saying that i need to look at a girl and think god she's gorgeous if i wanted her to be my girlfriend so it's definately a mixture of the two...
Ever wonder why they all say they want nice caring boyfriends then date bad boy pricks? Think about it
Oh and I was about the same height when i was your age. Now at 21 I'm 6'5", reasonably attractive looking and the girls still don't go for me. Hope thats enough to disprove the appearance theory.
what about the hunchback of notre dame? he was ugly but good and the beautiful girl fell in love with him...
A relationship without friendship will not last long.
scousers 101: young girls perhaps go for "bad boys" as the crisis makes life more "interesting", but few people settle down with people who treat them badly. "Nice" people don't get anywhere because they are bland and boring, nobody wants to date a sycophant; people are attracted to people who treat them well but don't always say "yes" and kiss their feet.
ETA: people are never attracted to false personalities. If you aren't athletic or a clubber, for instance, then people will see right through it and think you pathetic.
Be yourself, and people will find you attactive and want to date you. It's a cliche but it's true. Don't try so hard to impress people, don't change yourself to win someone, and don't be so excruciatingly nice that you become the world's most boring person.
wait so if im on sports teams then i shouldnt walk around representing my team??? bcuz sum1 posted saying that its a false personality???
And Beauty and the Beast! Can't forget that one!
I am by far more attracted to personality. If a guy is cute too, that's just an added bonus! I didn't think that my exe was that good looking at first, but once I got to know him completely I thought he was the sexiest guy in the world!
In my experience anyone who is too good looking either:
A. Has a selfish attitude as they are used to members of the opposite sex catering to there every whim to either get with them or stay with them. They just dont have to try hard to accomodate others because they have become used to having their arses kissed. Just how celebs end up so arrogant.
B. Its only a matter of time before they find someone better looking or with even more money than you to spend on her.
I look for a girl on the same level as me, pretty in her own way,looks after herself, good dresser, intelligent, interesting, good career, caring, funny etc.
:banghead: thats where its all going wrong! i'm like 5' 5" or 6"
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If you're pretending to be an athletic person in order to pull da laydeez then you're a plank.
Learn to read, ffs.
but i thought at the end she did end up with him? maybe i'm wrong n i should watch the movie again since now i cant remember :chin: im confused now LoL